For the Newbies and not so new by Warlock

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by Warlock 17 days ago
Hi! And welcome to the exciting world of kink. I’m sure it feels very exciting, wonderful and fuzzy. !!! But !!! Please take a bit of time to understand what you are getting into, how to navigate this whole new world and how to keep yourself safe and sane.

Please be aware that this choice puts you in a very vulnerable place, even people who have been around a long time can slip and miss warning signs at times. Spend the time you need to educate yourself, read all you can, ask questions, make choices about what you desire or will not put up with and be firm on those choices.

Always remember “No means No” Without consent, what we do is abuse and punishable by law. Don’t let anyone convince you otherwise.

To start you on your path to enjoyment I have a few links to various postings which I believe are informational, relevant and educational. It is by no means exhaustive, but there should be enough to spin your mind a little. Beyond that, proceed with caution, stay safe and enjoy life.

Some groups with various forms of information. As always, take everything with a grain of salt. Adopt what feels right to you and discard that which feels wrong or does not fit.


Novices & Newbies
What It Is That We Do
Morals and Ethics
BDSM Glossary
All I Need to Know about Play Parties, I Learned in Kindergarten
A Checklist

Bad behaviors

Sexual Predation

Some essential reading by various people..

Sub Frenzies
A guide to finding that first Dom
Defining Your appetites 1
Defining Your appetites 2

Creepy dom
Red Flags and Dating Tips
The “Don’t Fall for it” list
An essay on Predators

If you have a link that you feel would be of benefit to the community, please send it to me and I’ll post it here.


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So They Said It Would Not Last

1 - CopySo they said it would not last but 12 years of broadcasting just shows that we are here to stay. We have lasted longer then any other BDSM network or shows. We started doing just a radio show and then came the Live broadcasting TV shows and we are still live.

We are live because of the dedication of the show hosts and the guest and most of all the people that have tuned in live or watched the archive shows. Over the last 4 Years we have over 4 million viewers and in the last year over 800,000.00 have watched the show.

We have interview hundreds of guests that come live on the show and will continue to do educational and informative shows.

Losing the studio three years ago was a huge set back but the last year showed us that TSRnetwork matters and so many people wish us to continue. For all the critics over the last 12 years we are still here and broadcasting.

Our Hosts do this from a part of their heart that says We Love Our Community in BDSM. These day with so many people coming in from the book and movie Fifty Shades of Grey, TSRnetwork at time is the door way to the vanilla world where they can come and watch real stories and advice from real people in BDSM.

We do this because of the love of BDSM and from wanting to educate new people to our life choice. We do this because it’s in our hearts and soul. For all the critics over the last 12 years that have said to shut down we say to them we are still here and broadcasting and education and saving lives. We believed in what we are doing as we are watched all over the world and in every state here in the U.S.A. We now have friends all over the world and get lots of letters saying thank you.

TSRnetwork had documented the last 12 years of our life style with such amazing guest that it makes my heart spin. To all the host present and past and guest and viewers with that I say THANK YOU FOR BELIEVING IN US AND BEING A PART OF TSRNETWORK.COM The Real Fifty Shades of Grey.

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So it Begins The Hollywood Reporter “Student Charged With Sexual Assault Says He Was Re-enacting ‘Fifty Shades of Grey”

 Courtesy of Cook County Sheriff

Courtesy of Cook County Sheriff

The University of Illinois at Chicago student allegedly beat his victim with a belt while sexually assaulting her.

We will see more and more of this sort of press and actions. The book and movie is out there and now we must work on education and keeping our life choice safe. Leaders in your community must work together in educating people that coming into the life style. Sorry to say we will see more this in the up coming year from this book and the movie.

hollywood reporter

Excerpt from the Story:

A 19-year-old University of Illinois at Chicago freshman was arrested on Saturday, charged with one count of aggravated criminal sexual assault. He allegedly told police that he and the 19-year-old woman he was with were re-enacting Fifty Shades of Grey scenes.

Hossain allegedly proceeded to cover her eyes with a knit cap, remove the rest of her clothing and hit her with both a belt and his fists. When the woman told him to stop, started crying and began to wiggle her arms free, Karr said Hossain held her arms back and sexually assaulted her. Prosecutors said when Hossain’s roommate came home following the incident, Hossain held the door shut. Eventually, the woman left and called the police.

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Where are all the Fifty Shades of Grey Events? They have been here all the time.

thereal50-copyWhere are all the Fifty Shades of Grey Events? We have all been here well before the book or the movie. Countless people from all over the world have been living this life choice of Fifty Shades of Grey for thousands of years.

This is not going to change who we are or affect us in the long run. Fads fade out but the Real 50 Shades of people will never be just a fad.

I get so many people in my class S/m 101 Open Forum at The Lair de Sade that have read the book and are curious some will deiced that this is not for them and many will be our leaders of tomorrow. I support all the new people that keep our life choice going onto the future.

We are not a book a movie or adverting campaign we are real people that live breath this train of thought of BDSM and S/m and so much more.

Just like the Story of O, Exit to Eden, 9 1/2 Weeks and The Secretary it has not changed our life style and it might add a moment of excitement to our conversion but its not going to make us better or worst.

In a few months it will be Netflix, Amazon and Google Play and it will move into the past. it will be talked about about 20 years from now when someone do a fad timeline ..

So you want a Fifty Shades of Grey Event just go one of your local dungeons or munches and start really seeing what we are all about. Fifty Shades of Grey is just a book and a movie and nothing more. It does not represent who we are as a community or a life choice. We are who we are and nothing is going to change this.

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The Atlantic BDSM Versus the DSM


This is from a post on Fetlife by Susan Wright Have permission to re-post this.

BDSM Versus the DSM

The Atlantic recounts how NCSF, Race Bannon, Guy Baldwin, Charles Moser and Peggy Kleinplatz fought to make the APA acknowledge that BDSM is a healthy form of sexual expression!…

The Atlantic
by Merissa Nathan Gerson

Asking your partner to tie you to the bedpost, telling them to slap you hard in the throes of lovemaking, dressing like a woman if you are a man, admitting a fetish for feet: Just a few years ago, any of these acts could be used against you in family court.

This was the case until 2010, when the American Psychiatric Association announced that it would be changing the diagnostic codes for BDSM, fetishism, and transvestic fetishism (a variant of cross-dressing) in the next edition of its Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM), published in 2013. The new definitions marked a distinction between behavior—for example, playing rough—and actual pathology. Consenting adults were no longer deemed mentally ill for choosing sexual behavior outside the mainstream.

The change was the result of a massive effort from the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom (NCSF), an advocacy group founded in 1997 “to advance the rights of and advocate for consenting adults in the BDSM-Leather-Fetish, Swing, and Polyamory Communities.” At the time, these types of sexual behavior, by virtue of their inclusion in the DSM, were considered markers of mental illness—and, as a result, were heavily stigmatized, often with legal repercussions. In family court, an interest in BDSM was used as justification to remove people’s children from their custody.

“A sexual sadist practices on non-consenting people,” explains NCSF founder Susan Wright, while “someone who is kinky is having consensual enthusiastically desired sex.” The problem with the earlier DSM: It didn’t draw a distinction between the two. A 1998 survey from the NCSF found that “36 percent of S&M practitioners have been victims of harassment, and 30 percent have been victims of discrimination.” As a result, the organization’s website says, “24 percent [have lost] a job or a contract, 17 percent [have lost] a promotion, and 3 percent [have lost] custody of a child.”

“We were seeing the DSM used as a weapon,” says Race Bannon, an NCSF Board Member and the creator of Kink-Aware Professionals, a roster of safe and non-judgmental healthcare professionals for the BDSM and kink community. (The list is now maintained by the NCSF.) “Fifty Shades [of Grey] had not come along,” says Bannon, an early activist in the campaign to change the DSM. “[Kink] was still this dark and secret thing people did.”

Since its first edition was published in 1952, the DSM has often posed a problem for anyone whose sexual preferences fell outside the mainstream. Homosexuality, for example, was considered a mental illness—a “sociopathic personality disturbance”—until the APA changed the language in 1973. More broadly, the DSM section on paraphilias (a blanket term for any kind of unusual sexual interest), then termed “sexual deviations,” attempted to codify all sexual preferences considered harmful to the self or others—a line that, as one can imagine, is tricky in the BDSM community.

The effort to de-classify kink as a psychiatric disorder began in 1980s Los Angeles with Bannon and his then-partner, Guy Baldwin, a therapist who worked mostly with the gay and alternative sexualities communities. Bannon, a self-described “community organizer, activist, writer, and advocate” moved to Los Angeles in 1980 and soon became close with Baldwin through their mutual involvement as open participants in and advocates for the kink community. “I’m fairly confident that I was the first licensed mental-health practitioner anywhere who was out about being a practicing sadomasochist,” Baldwin says.

The pair was spurred to action after the 1987 edition of the DSM-III-R, which introduced the concept of paraphilias, changed the classifications for BDSM and kink from “sexual deviation” to actual disorders defined by two diagnostic criteria. To be considered a mental illness, the first qualification was: ‘‘Over a period of at least six months, recurrent, intense sexual urges and sexually arousing fantasies involving the act (real, not simulated) of being humiliated, beaten, bound, or otherwise made to suffer.’’ The second: ‘‘The person has acted on these urges, or is markedly distressed by them.’’

“1987 was a bad shift,” Wright recalls. “Anyone who was [voluntarily] humiliated, beaten, bound, or any other alternate sexual expression was considered mentally ill.”

With the new language, Baldwin says, he quickly realized that laws regarding alternative sexual behavior would continue to be problematic “as long as the psychiatric community defines these behaviors as pathological.”

“I knew there were therapists around the world diagnosing practicing consensual sadomasochists with mental illness,” he says.

At the time that the new DSM was published, Baldwin and Bannon were planning to attend the 1987 march on Washington, D.C., in support of gay rights; after the new criteria came out, they decided to host a panel discussion for mental-health professionals in the State Department auditorium, where they announced the launch of what would come to be known as “The DSM Revision Project.”

“We asked how many people in the room were mental-health professionals,” Baldwin says, and “two-thirds of the people in the room raised their hands. And we said, ‘The way this needs to happen is, licensed medical practitioners need to write the DSM committee that reviews the language of the DSM concerned with paraphilias.’”

Around 40 or 50 people left the session with the information needed to write the letters. “We did not know exactly what would result,” Bannon recalls. “We did not think we would see dramatic changes suddenly.”

They didn’t—but the changes they did see were positive. The next edition of the DSM, published in 1994, added that to be considered part of a mental illness, “fantasies, sexual urges, or behaviors” must “cause clinically significant distress or impairment in social, occupational, or other important areas of functioning.”

“This was a definite improvement from the DSM-III-R,” says Wright, who later took over leadership of the DSM Revision Project from Bannon and Baldwin.

“These criteria gave [health professionals] wiggle room to say, ‘They have issues, but it is not about their kink. For the vast majority, it is just the way they have sex,’” Bannon explains. “Rather than saying, ‘Because you are into this method of sexuality, you are sick,’ [they could say], ‘Pathologically, if this impacts your life negatively, then you have a problem.’”

But the new language in the 1994 DSM also allowed for wiggle room of a different kind: The threshold of “significant distress” was often loosely interpreted, with the social stigma of kink, rather than kink itself, causing the negative impact on people’s lives. Workplace discrimination and violence were on the rise, according to a 2008 NCSF survey, and people were still being declared unfit parents as a result of their sexual preferences: Eighty of the 100 people who turned to the NCSF for legal assistance in custody battles from 1997-2010 lost their cases.

A few years after the 1994 DSM was published, Wright decided it was time to fight for another revision. When she founded the organization in 1997, the NCSF’s goal was a change to the APA’s diagnostic codes that separated the behavior (e.g., “he likes to restrict his breathing during sex”) from the diagnosis (e.g., “his desire to restrict his breath means that he must be mentally ill”). The next DSM, the group argued, should split the paraphilias from the paraphilic disorders, so that simply enjoying consensual BDSM would not be considered indicative of an illness.

Their efforts were largely ignored by the APA until early 2009, when Wright attended a panel discussion at New York City’s Philosophy Center on why people practice BDSM. Among the panelists was psychiatrist Richard Krueger, whose expertise included the diagnosis and treatment of paraphilias and sexual disorders.

During the meeting, Wright says, “I brought up the point that the DSM manual caused harm to BDSM people because it perpetuated the stigma that we were mentally ill. [Krueger] heard me and said that was not what they intended with the DSM.” Krueger, it turned out, was on the APA’s paraphilias committee, and following the meeting opened up an email dialogue between Wright and the other committee members, in which Wright provided documentation about the violence and discrimination kinky people experienced. “I credited that to the DSM,” she says. “Courts used it. Therapists used it. And it was being misinterpreted.”

Over the next year, “I sent him information, he gave it to the group, they asked questions, and I responded. It was very productive,” Wright recalls. “We [the NCSF] felt we were heard, we were listened to—and they took [our arguments] into account when they changed the wording” of the DSM in 2010.

Another major factor in the NCSF’s favor was a paper, co-written by sexual-medicine physician Charles Moser and sexologist Peggy J. Kleinplatz and published in 2006 in the Journal of Psychology and Human Sexuality, titled “DSM IV-TR and the Paraphilias: An Argument for Removal.” According to Wright, the paper, which “summed up opinions of mental-health professionals who thought you shouldn’t include sexual activity in the DSM,” played a significant role in the paraphilia committee’s eventual shift in language.

In February 2010 the proposed change was made public—clarifying, Wright says, that “the mental illness [depends on] how it is expressed, not the behavior itself.” The new guidelines drew a clear difference, in other words, between people expressing a healthy range of human sexuality (for example, a couple that likes to experiment, consensually, with whips, chains, and dungeons) and sadists who wish others genuine harm (for example, tying and whipping someone in a basement without their consent).

The DSM-5 was released in May 2013, its contents marking a victory for the NCSF, Bannon, and Baldwin. The final language states: “A paraphilia is a necessary but not a sufficient condition for having a paraphilic disorder, and a paraphilia by itself does not necessarily justify or require clinical intervention.”

“Now we are seeing a sharp drop in people having their children removed from their custody,” Wright explains. Since the change, according to the NCSF, less than 10 percent of people who sought the organization’s help in custody cases have had their children removed, and the number of discrimination cases has dropped from more than 600 in 2002 to 500 in 2010 to around 200 over the last year.

“The APA basically came out and said, ‘These people are mentally healthy,’” Wright says. “‘It’s had a direct impact on society.”

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A mental mind fuck can be nice

“A mental mind fuck can be nice…” ~Frank N. Furter1

A few months ago I was asked to explain the “mind fuck.” This is what I said…

So mind fucks…. The examples below are NOT without negotiations.

Now this can be as simple as calling people on their shit or when appropriate using the truth against someone.

An example would be applying this concept to discipline: I might ask a sub to complete a task or cease unwanted behavior. In negotiations I will ask for them to create their consequences or ask what if questions to find what will really get to them.

Any infraction procures a reminder of these consequences, “What was it you said I could do to you if you fucked up?” And here’s the Kicker: I might make them *beg* for the privilege of my giving them this consequence. “Please Mommy, spank me, I’ve been a bad boy” (or whatever they are into)

Sometimes it’s part of the negotiations:

I already knew one of my play partners had an extreme distaste for a-symmetrical rope. During this play session’s negotiations, she approved the mind fuck. So after I had already tied down wrists and ankles to a chair, I grabbed my 10 foot rope (I use to practice knots) and tied down one thigh, saying I wanted her legs spread open more. “Oh, but look there’s not enough rope for the other thigh. I guess you’ll have to be lopsided…. 0h well, sux to be you.”

Sometimes it’s about knowing the boundaries and how to push them:

I was re-organizing my toy bag at my girl friend’s house and she picks up the huge purple dildo off the bed and says, “This one scares me!” So I make her carry it around the house for the rest of the day, “to make friends with it.” That night I made her beg me to fuck her with it.

Sometimes things just happen on the fly:

Newbie sub I brought to his 2nd or 3rd play party ever (never even been naked in public before)…. accidently dropped a cane into the pool. Looking @ me with those, “Oh shit,” puppy dog eyes, he asked me, “I guess I have to go get that? But I didn’t bring a swim suit?” Typical Thizbee answer again: “I guess it sux to be you.”
I have to say watching him undress in front of 20 strangers = Priceless!

So then he wasn’t allowed to redress after (except for you know, rope).

Anyways…. you get the idea…

I think it helps that I’m a smart ass. And that my bullshit detector is cranked up to eleven.

Other tactics in my mind fuck arsenal? I’ve perfected the whispery demon voice in your ear and I negotiate like a mother-fucker! I’ve also figured out how to balance having kind words in my mouth and meanness in my hands…. But the real trick to the mind fuck is being a good listener.

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Happy New Year’s from

happy new year 2015I wish to say thank you to Miss Cassie and Genesis for being amazing hosts on their shows on

Thank you to all the chat viewers that come in the chat and join the conversation on the live shows. You make our job easier as Host as we get to ask the questions of our guests that you wish to hear.

To all the Guests of each show Thank You for taking the time to come to the studio or to web cam with us each week. You all have been amazing guest though-out 2014.

All the people that could not tune into the Live shows because of your busy life’s but went into the archives and watch the recorded shows. Thank you for taking the time to go onto and watch the shows that you missed.Because of you, you has increased our viewing numbers over 800,000 views when added together all the different places that we broadcast on.

Viewing the analytic s of the shows from February 2014 to now we have had over 300 thousand people tune into and watch the live and recorded shows on Youtube and On Google the numbers are 580,233 views from the two profiles that we broadcast the shows on.

My hats goes out to Miss Cassie for her show Naughty or Nice with Miss Cassie Special Guest: Sybian Master that has had over 21,000 views. The show streamed live on Aug 19, 2014 and has had so many views in such a short time.

2015 we hope to move past over a million or more people viewing the live shows or the recorded shows. We hope to add more shows to the network and touch more people both BDSM member’s and the vanilla world. Here is a letter from a viewer.

Dear Rev Mel,

I was told by a friend about your show and have always wanted to be spanked. My husband could not understand why I need this and would make fun of me. After finding your show and TSRnetwork I got my husband to watch the shows on Youtube. It has changed my life and his. He is a natural Dom and I’m now collared by my husband.

We could never come out to our friends and family about what we do but it is wonderful having a place where we can go and learn about BDSM and not feel like such a freak. I, now feel normal and found a safe place where I can share with husband all of my desires.

Thank you,

Kathy ——-

I get these letters all the time and this is what make doing all of this so amazing as we at TSRnetwork reach out into the vanilla world and change them one day at a time.

We have lost so many friends of TSRnetwork and when we launched the show back in February we dearly missed our friend Robert who passed away while the shows are down the year before. Robert you are missed and each show I think of you and wish you were here to share this with us.

This year we lost River Butch not only a fan of TSRnetwork but a friend as she supported us during hard times and laugh with us at some of those special mommets on the life show. I will miss her loving emails and phone calls, you were always a hero to me. River Butch and Robert you both are in our hearts and thoughts and will never be forgotten we love you.

In 2015 we will continue to broadcast free live BDSM TV and make this a place where education and safety comes first and change the world on how they view our BDSM Live Choice and community.

Like I say “There is not a street in United States that someone is not being tied to a bed, blindfolded and spank we are not that much different then our vanilla friends and family.

To our community I salute you and have a wonderful New Year’s and may 2015 be an amazing year for all.

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The Art Of Sensual Primal Play with Rev Mel at the Stockroom in Los Angeles

The Rev Mel Show Live on

Saturday, December 06, 2014 · 3:00 PM – 6:00 PM
Stockroom Hall
2809 1/2 W. Sunset Blvd. Los Angeles, CA 90026 @ map
Cost: $10
Dress code: Come as you are
Book your tickets Now

Primal Play is about touching the erotic and sensual part of who we are. It is flesh on flesh it’s the wild within all of us. The uncivilized part of who we are where nothing exist but the fire of erotic energy. Primal is our foundation of our basic instincts and our animal nature as we embrace our animal nature. Touching, smelling and being creative with our hands, mouth and body it is core of our sexually.

A headspace and mindset and attitude of leaving the body and becoming a nonhuman shift into an animalistic being. It is love making and play at the primal level of our true self.

Primal Play is the release from being a modern human and to be in privative state of mind where we let loose the taboos that are pushed open us. It’s without restraints as a human without shame and to embrace our desirers and back to the basic instincts of our soul. It is expressing passion and sensual energy without restraints in our mind and body and most of all without fear.

This is place where our body and mind fine tunes the most primitive self as we touch that place of letting go and just being in the moment. It is hot and sensual will touch your inner nature of your true self and you learn to a new way to that hidden part of you.

Primal is the raw, animalistic, wild, sexual and uncivilized part of who we are conditioned to be in our daily life. We are taught to ignore, pretend and hide this feeling inside of us and not to share this wild side to the outside world. This exists within all of us and the animal within us is calling us out. Come change the dogma and find your true self as shed the taboo of what others have put on us.

Primal is a consciousness or space as an individual is connected to their animalistic, primal urges and thinking out of the box. It is sexual, wild and hot state of mind and a place where the dance begins.

Open enrollment is now in effect, and just like college, all the best classes fill up fast, so don’t get left out in the halls, reserve your space today!

Yummy snacks and refreshments will be served.

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Live on List of shows.
We are Live FREE BDSM TV just go to and Watch Live

Monday Nov 3 @ 8 PM PST Sir Pyro and slave_goddess The Rev Mel Show
Tuesday Nov 4 @ 7:30 PM PST Inside Fetish Guest Mistress Ashley Reigns Goddess Genesis
Tuesday Nov 4 @ 9 PM PST Guest Hudsy Hawn; Naughty or Nice with Miss Cassie
Monday Nov 10 @ 8 PM PST Dragon_San The Rev Mel Show
Tuesday Nov 11 @ 7:30 PM PST Mistress Ashley Reigns Inside Fetish with Goddess Genesis
Tuesday Nov 11 @ 9 PM PST Guest Kinky Klaus; Naughty or Nice with Miss Cassie
Monday Nov 17 No Show
Tuesady Nov 18 No Shows
Monday Nov 24 @ 8 PM PST MsCynthia The Rev Mel Show
Tuesday Nov 25 @ 7:30 PM PST Guest Mistress Cyan Inside Fetish with Goddess Genesis
Tuesday Nov 25 @ 9 PM PST Guest Kasod; Naughty or Nice with Miss Cassie Rope Bondage.The Rev Mel Show Live on

Monday Dec 1 @ 8 PM PST Entropy156 The Rev Mel Show
Tuesday Dec 2 @ 7:30 PM PST Inside Fetish with Goddess Genesis
Tuesday Dec 2 @ 9 PM PST Guest TBA; Naughty or Nice with Miss Cassie
Monday Dec 8 @ 8 PM PST Miss_Tearious The Rev Mel Show all about Latex
Tuesday Dec 9 @ 7:30 PM PST Inside Fetish with Goddess Genesis
Tuesday Dec 9 @ 9 PM PST Guest TBA; Naughty or Nice with Miss Cassie
Monday Dec 15 @ 8 PM PST Guest Dr Limor The Rev Mel Show (Dr Limor from Playboy Radio)3
Tuesday Dec 16 @ 7:30 PM PST Inside Fetish with Goddess Genesis
Tuesday Dec 16 @ 9 PM PST Guest TBA; Naughty or Nice with Miss Cassie
Monday Dec 22@ 8 PM PST Mistress Ashley Reigns The Rev Mel Show
Tuesday Dec 23 @ 7:30 PM PST Inside Fetish with Goddess Genesis
Tuesday Dec 23 @ 9 PM PST Guest TBA; Naughty or Nice with Miss Cassie
Monday Dec 29 @ 8 PM PST Thizbee The Rev Mel Show
Tuesday Dec 30 @ 7:30 PM PST Inside Fetish with Goddess Genesis3
Tuesday Dec 30 @ 9 PM PST Guest TBA; Naughty or Nice with Miss Cassie

Talking Sex Radio AKA is the net’s leading destination for adults who want to explore the sight and sounds of erotica with taste and style. This unique streaming broadcasts live TV shows about BDSM and Kink were created to develop a video portal combines titillating sexual imagery with the cutting-edge technology and the BDSM community. We are about creating a blue print with our live broadcast that reached out to teach and educated new players in BDSM.

Since it’s launch in December 2005, more than 3800,000 unique listeners/viewers have join the community here on The site cutting-edge content from Live Free Kink TV Shows, musicians, artist, writers, photographers, models and light minded folks, all on the vanguard of today’s pop sex culture. and is an ever-changing environment with new content added daily. started out as an audio podcast that highlight the BDSM community and life choice. Then when the TV shows were developed the name was changed to TSR stands for Talking Sex Radio and still believes in education and creating space with freedom in mind to be who you are. It is the foundation of TSR and the right to have an adult life without fear.

If you wish to be a guest or a sponsor please contact Rev Mel here on Fetlife.

We are changing the world one Vanilla at a time.

All shows are produced by M.A.P. Production and TSRnetwork Studio

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Leadership in the BDSM

smalltitter4Leadership in the BDSM Life Choice is very easy for me explain from my point of views. But with that, we all have opinions like we all have a– holes.

My opinion about Leadership is not how long you have been into BDSM it is about what positive things you have done to make this life choice better. We have lots of teachers and leaders in BDSM that have gotten there because they know a skill and yes lots of them are predators and lots are amazing people.

A leader has to have a heart of a lion that is willing to fight for what is right and build up the community for the whole and not for ego. One that understands that we as community are ONE and what we do reflects and affect others. It is the glue that makes us strong and without it we just another adult playground for huge egos and misunderstanding which causes chaos.

I believe you have to earn the right to be called a leader not on how well you fling a flogger or tie someone up. What do you do behind the scenes that nobody knows matters? A true leader will do things without acknowledgement to the public. They live the life of honesty and integrity and their word is their bond. They own up to their mistakes and take responsibly for their action. They respect them self and others and don’t use others to build their false ego.

To me leadership an importance role in our community and not to be taken lightly. We have to ask ourselves this question (Do we make a difference and how so in a positive way or a negative way?)

How do we teach the next generation that is going to replace the leaders of time and guide them on to this journey of leadership? Leadership comes from the heart and the love of this life choice of BDSM. Do we teach them to be good at craft so you can win the hearts of some young thing and not really understanding what is meant by I will hurt you but never harm you. Do we make idols out of people that do not think about the welfare of the people but the next conquest?

Leadership to me is more than just a title it’s how we make a difference in how we live this life of BDSM. It is passion and it is just bigger than just a thought. It the foundation of our life choice and it’s pure and simple, it is all of us that take the time to make sure we change this live choice in a positive way.

Rev Mel

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