Leadership in the BDSM Life Choice is very easy for me explain from my point of views. But with that, we all have opinions like we all have a– holes.
My opinion about Leadership is not how long you have been into BDSM it is about what positive things you have done to make this life choice better. We have lots of teachers and leaders in BDSM that have gotten there because they know a skill and yes lots of them are predators and lots are amazing people.
A leader has to have a heart of a lion that is willing to fight for what is right and build up the community for the whole and not for ego. One that understands that we as community are ONE and what we do reflects and affect others. It is the glue that makes us strong and without it we just another adult playground for huge egos and misunderstanding which causes chaos.
I believe you have to earn the right to be called a leader not on how well you fling a flogger or tie someone up. What do you do behind the scenes that nobody knows matters? A true leader will do things without acknowledgement to the public. They live the life of honesty and integrity and their word is their bond. They own up to their mistakes and take responsibly for their action. They respect them self and others and don’t use others to build their false ego.
To me leadership an importance role in our community and not to be taken lightly. We have to ask ourselves this question (Do we make a difference and how so in a positive way or a negative way?)
How do we teach the next generation that is going to replace the leaders of time and guide them on to this journey of leadership? Leadership comes from the heart and the love of this life choice of BDSM. Do we teach them to be good at craft so you can win the hearts of some young thing and not really understanding what is meant by I will hurt you but never harm you. Do we make idols out of people that do not think about the welfare of the people but the next conquest?
Leadership to me is more than just a title it’s how we make a difference in how we live this life of BDSM. It is passion and it is just bigger than just a thought. It the foundation of our life choice and it’s pure and simple, it is all of us that take the time to make sure we change this live choice in a positive way.
Rev Mel
