Self Identity

miss caddy compson What’s Positive about Sexual Identity

A lot of girls identify as bisexual, especially in the BDSM world.  In my experience, a bisexual girl is almost the norm instead of the exception in the community.  I suppose we’re more accepting of different sexual preferences and many people are more comfortable disclosing their preferences.  I definitely know a lot more bisexual men, which is almost unheard of in vanilla company.  You’re either gay or straight.  If you occasionally have a sexual or romantic relationship with another man, you’re deemed gay.  Hard and fast.  Even if that’s not really true.  “Pansexual” is nonexistent, as are blurred lines like “heteroflexiable” or “homoflexible.”  “Asexual” is also completely ignored in vanilla contexts.  Identifying as asexual, simply means that you’re just a prude or that you just haven’t found the “right” one.  Nonsense.  All nonsense.  There are more outlets with BDSM, but even here there aren’t enough labels.  Take me for example:

At this point, what is my sexuality?

I suppose that technically I started out as a lesbian.  I was absolutely madly in love and hated spending even a moment away from her.  We were together for two years before one day she brought home a boyfriend.  A boyfriend?  What?  I never said anything to her about it.  I guess I just had an “if you can’t beat ‘em, join ‘em” attitude, so I landed a boyfriend of my own.  And that was the start of my poly relationships.  Additionally, it was also my introduction to BDSM since my boyfriend was a Dom.  A lot for a girl to take on.  I suppose I qualified as bisexual at that point.  I had fully sexual relationships with both male and female partners.

As I got older, I identified more as pansexual.  All welcoming and all inclusive.  I’ve had all kinds of lovers with all kinds of traits and genders.  Female, male, MtF, FtM (and people who didn’t identify with any of those) and I’ve loved them all equally.  Like many others, I enjoyed people on an individual basis, not based on their genitalia.

Now, however, my sexuality has evolved in a different direction.  I still want boys, I still want Tbois and Tgirls, but I no longer feel the desire to be with a woman.  I suppose on a very primitive and basic level, I mostly want cock now and I find myself attracted to people with penises and distinctly not interested in vagina anymore.  I’m not sure when this development happened, but it’s a pretty strong feeling.  I don’t dislike women and I still find some women very attractive (and I still mildly obsess over a few), but I don’t want to have sex with them anymore.  No penis, no play.  Or something like that.  I wouldn’t fight against an intense connection with a woman if there was one, but I definitely wouldn’t seek it out at this point in my life.  (Although I’m mildly interested in fisting and yet uninterested in trying it with a man, so who knows?)

So what’s my sexuality now?  I’m not a lesbian anymore.  I’m not bisexual anymore.  I’m not even pansexual anymore.  I only like men and either side of the trans coin, but not women, so I’m not all inclusive at this point.  How do you label that?  We like to believe that labels aren’t important, but when there are fill-in-the-blanks on profiles and such, there’s no box for me to check.  When someone asks, I don’t have a name for my “thing.”  It’s like asking a biracial child (i.e. also me) to choose one box on her standardized test.  That’s unfair and narrow minded.  There needs to be more options.  Even BDSM doesn’t cover all the sexual orientations there are.  We just throw a “fluctuating/evolving” blanket over anything we can’t properly identify.  Weak.  I know what my sexuality is right now.  It is not currently in the process of evolving and hasn’t for a long time.  I’m not “confused.”  I just don’t have a label for it.

No one wants to be labeled or have to label themselves, but labels are important.  We don’t have the availability to learn details from every person we come across.  We use labels as tools to help guide our knowledge.  When we learn that a woman is a lesbian, we assume that she finds women sexual attractive.  That’s what we’ve gleamed from that description.  We are able to make snap judgments that would be impossible to do if we systematically interviewed everyone she has dated.  We have the slightest start into who she may be and how she wants to be viewed.  Labels get a bad rap, but they’re not inherently bad.  It’s how we use them that is sometimes negative.  When we apply them to stop gathering more information because we think that’s all we can learn, we’re abusing the usefulness of labels.

Sexual identity is important.  It helps us understand and relate to others and it helps us understand ourselves.  No, we don’t always need to label ourselves (to others or even to ourselves) and we never have to be absolute or definitive with our tastes, but as sexual creatures, part of our evaluation of ourselves and others is through sexuality.  Finding that sexual identity sometimes causes strife and confusion, from its discovery throughout life.  But it can also be a very fun joyride.  I have experienced a great deal of satisfaction and self discovery through every stage of my sexual awakening.  I know that it gives me something added that I can use to relate to other people and have them relate to me, too.  Whether we’re “outlandish” with our sexual appetites and desires or more “conservative,” we’re still sexual beings.  Even if we’re asexual.  (No matter how kinky we are in the bedroom, there is always someone else who thinks they’re “kinkier” and no matter how kinky that person is, there’s probably someone even “kinkier” than that. It’s all relative and it’s all a matter of what works for the particular people involved.)  Sexual identity is profound; we just have to be careful not to use labels negatively or harmfully in regards to others, and just as importantly, in regards to ourselves.

With a great deal of things, a lot of people don’t fit into the boxes we put them in.  Most people in fact.  There are countless ways that people describe themselves.  However, no matter how many labels we have to give people, they will never fully describe everyone.  Not yet, anyway.

Inside Fetish with Genesis Guest will be Sir Valentino topic Clarity, Service and Education

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Tuesday March 25 at 7:30 PM PST

Sir Valentino’s core household and lifestyle values are Charity, Service and Education. These things are extremely important. But Sir Valentino also has a love for food, so this year he will be incorporating food into every class he teaches; starting with his grilled cheese and spanking class next Wednesday. Also Sir Valentino thinks its entertaining but weird to refer to himself in the third person. Thank you boardwalk empire. Now for some of the stuff Sir Valentino has done in the past few years and through his first title year:

Sir Valentino is your Southern California Leather Master 2013 and your SouthWest Leather Master 2014
~Presenter at Dom Con LA 2010, 2011, 2012 & 2013
~Presenter at BOLD 2014
~Presenter at Olympus Leather 2012
~Performer at Sanctuary LAX Studios (Los Angeles, CA)
~Performed at 2014 AVN Awards
~Presenter at TGIF’s Sunday School (Fresno, CA)
~Presenter at the Annual TGIF Ball (Fresno, CA)
~Educator at Sanctuary LAX Studios (Los Angeles, CA)
~Educator at Dungeon Servitus (San Diego, CA)
~Presenter at Behind Closed Doors 2013 (Tucson, AZ)
~Educator at Desert Dominion (Tuscon, AZ)
~Winner of the 2013 Olympus Leather Community Service Award
~Nominee for TSR Man of the Year 2011
~Taught at local dungeons in various cities including Bakersfield, Victorville, Baltimore, Virgina, Tuscon and Las Vegas, etc.
~Appeared on VH1′s “I’m Married To A…” Episode 104
This last year, Sir Valentino taught 24 classes, traveled more than 10,000 miles through eight states and raised eight and a half tons of food for charity.

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Naughty or Nice with Miss Cassie Guest Bettie Bondage Tuesday 9 PM PST on TSRnetwork

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Naughty or Nice with Miss Cassie Live on TSRnetwork.com
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Naughty or Nice with Miss Cassie
Airs live every Tuesday 9-10pm PST on TSR Network

This week her special guest will be Bettie Bondage.

Professional/Lifestyle Domme, BDSM performer and so much more.

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The Rev Mel Show with Guest Educator Galen Fous Talking About Fetishsexual Desire Live Monday March 24 at 8 PM PST

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We are the Real 50 Shades of Grey….
The Rev Mel Show Live on TSRnetwork.com with guest Galen AKA DakaDom Live Monday March 24 at 8 pm pst.

About Galen Fous MTP: Over the last 15 years I have worked with hundreds of men, women and couples who sought support to be honest and empowered in who they are sexually, and heal from the decades of fear, shame and judgments that held their authentic desire back. I have a Master’s degree in Transpersonal Psychology, with an emphasis on authentic sexual expression. I regularly present at a variety of Kink, Fetish and alternative Sexuality related conferences, lecture at universities and grad schools on sex-positive topics, and have been interviewed in numerous media for my innovative views on conscious sexuality and the nature of Fetishsexuality. I I have been advocating for sex positive approaches to understanding the complex nature of sexual desire and have been active publicly in the Sex-Positive, Fetish/Kink and Sacred Sexuality communities since 1998.
An important component of my research into the nature of Fetishsexual desire is the development of the Personal Erotic Myth Survey. ( http://galenfous.com/pem ) This ground-breaking and ongoing research survey with over 800 participants so far, is the first study that begins to document the mythic archetypal aspects of Fetishsexuality and the mapping of the sexual unconscious.
In 2000 I introduced the world renowned Tetruss Portable Dungeon, Suspension Bondage Rig and Sex Swing, the world’s most versatile adult toy. (http://Tetruss.com)
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The Trap of the “Cliché” Sub

miss caddy compson The Trap of the “Cliché” Sub

I recently listened to a rant directed toward new female submissives.  All the clichés and pitfalls and traps and nonsense.  All the crap (and sometimes sheer stupidity) that comes with being a new sub.  Of course there are some who skirt all the madness (hoorah!) but it’s more common than uncommon.  The whole rant basically boiled down to new subs not knowing that their submission is a gift.  I don’t buy into the whole notion of submission (or domination) being a gift*, but his rant seriously struck a chord in me.

  • Believing a man is a Dom simply because he gives himself the title
  • Subs who fall in love with a Dom who doesn’t love them back
  • Doms who only see their subs during sexy time
  • Subs who are so eager to please that they don’t examine if this Dom is a good man
  • Doms who restrict a new sub’s communication with other knowledgeable people in the scene
  • Subs pushing too many limits that aren’t ready to be pushed just to be pleasing
  • Thinking that a Dom is a “Master” of a particular craft simply because he owns the toys
  • Being a popular new toy to too many people
  • Getting into a committed relationship (or slapping on a collar, ahem) before proper negotiations
  • Negotiations?  Huh?

The list goes on and on.  It made me think about my own transition into the kink community.  That rant about naïve subs was directly aimed at the new submissive that I once was.  My entire sex life had been immersed in D/s and polyamorous relationships, but all behind closed doors, all in private.  It wasn’t until my mid 20s that I actually came into the community.  I found myself poking around online, seeking and researching and a so-called Dom quickly found me.  Before I knew it, I was in a committed relationship with a man I barely knew, who was screening all my interactions with anyone else in the community.  He wanted orgasm control, which anyone who has gone through this process will tell you is a major deal, often with long lasting repercussions.  No one was allowed to talk to me. He had the passwords to all of my profiles and email.  I was completely isolated with (still) no basis of comparison as to how D/s worked outside the bedroom.  Although he demanded a lot of control in most aspects of my life, he didn’t see me much outside the bedroom.  But, oh, how I longed to please.  He would beat me black and blue knowing that I had diving and swim practice every morning.  Those kinds of marks are very conspicuous in bathing suits and locker rooms.  But I wanted to prove myself as a true sub.  I didn’t even stop to think that I had to make him prove himself a true Dom, too.  I didn’t know I was supposed to.  Within no time at all, he wanted to bring other girls into the dynamic.  I wasn’t on solid footing with him yet, but he wasn’t interested in that.  He wanted more girls.  After a single conversation about it where I voiced my hesitation, he ended it abruptly.  It was a devastating blow at the time.  I had given so much of myself to this person who didn’t give me respect in return.

A lot of people (men and women alike) find themselves in similar states.  I’ve heard that losing your first Dom is one of the hardest losses in the BDSM realm.  It completely turns some people off entirely to this deliciously exciting world.  After one bad experience, they believe this just isn’t for them (and maybe it’s not), but they have fallen into the new sub trap.  Unfortunately, all the great writing geared toward new subs and all the knowledgeable people in the community come along with experience.  (Sometimes too little too late.)

And, indeed, all of those things did come to me with more exposure and experience.  I found the classes and the people who had my best interests at heart.  In retrospect, it was a great thing for me.  Obviously he wasn’t the person for me and I learned a lot.  Fortunately for me, I learned that all of this is worth it for me and is what I am at the core.  The experience gave me an arsenal of what is unacceptable and it helped me develop my voice so that I could better express my expectations and boundaries.  I learned what it means to take care of myself and what it means to take care of my partner.  And now I have a lot of wisdom to pass on to new people who come eager for advice.  It’s empowering once everything kinda “clicks” into place.

Ironically, that particular “Dom” touted the whole “hurt but not harm” motto, even as he continued to prey on new and unsuspecting girls.  He hasn’t ever had a long-term relationship since I’ve known him.

Toxic people permeate…everywhere.  All of life is filled with people who don’t care about us, but that becomes even more pronounced in the dark recesses of an adult playground.  Unfortunately for many, they do not come prepared to play and fall into the common pitfalls and traps.  Looking back on our experiences, I’m sure many of us grimace at some of the choices we made early in our journey (hopefully grimacing less with better choices and as time moves on).  Some of us halted and exited the journey as a result, but for those of us still here, we gained priceless perspective, experience and knowledge, some of which can hopefully be used to the betterment of someone else’s expedition.  Unfortunately, though, no matter how many people we try to save, there will always be those who end up the new sub “cliché.”

 

As far as submission being a gift, I don’t believe that submission (or dominance) is a gift.  It’s a mutual, ongoing, ever-changing dynamic, dependant on each other.  “Gifting” submission and dominance is simplistic and does not take into account things like consent or negotiation.  Gift giving is sometimes one-sided and cannot be taken back.  Of course, we all know that’s not true.  For me, this isn’t a gift that I’m bestowing upon you.  This is essential to my being.  Gifts are superfluous.  My need to submit is not.  Your need to dominate is not.  This is who we are.  And this is what we do together to nourish our souls.  (There are a million different views about the “gift” of submission, but this is what resonates with me.)

Body Comfort by miss caddy compson

miss caddy compson Getting comfortable with BDSM has made me more comfortable with myself.  Even though it’s not always true, BDSM is supposed to be more open and inclusive of people.  No matter who or what you are, you’re someone’s special kink.  You’re someone’s tasty treat.

I’ve play privately; I’ve played publicly.  And it’s all made me a better person.  It’s made me settle into myself.  Typical of any teenager, I didn’t always appreciate my body for what it was.  I am, and have always been, petite.  All of me is petite.  The media tells me that I’m supposed to be skinny with big boobs.  Like many, I’m a square peg in that round hole.  I’m sure that with age comes a measure of comfort, but I think that BDSM has helped promote and expand that measure for me.  Knowing that I’m exactly the kink that someone desires definitely helps that.  I don’t want to be fetishized (or do I?); I don’t want to be reduced to simply being a kink for someone, but it does feel like I’m specifically sought exactly the way I am.

BDSM makes you examine yourself.  You become very intimate with yourself in ways that maybe you didn’t have to be otherwise.  I’ve been put on display for others.  I’ve had others poke and prod me.  I’ve been in compromising positions, doing compromising things.  It all pushes your comfort zone.  Sometimes it gets easier, but maybe it doesn’t.  Regardless, you face your insecurities.  All the guards you’ve built to protect yourself are tested and all the limitations you’ve put on yourself are pressed.  Through exploration and play, you come to better understand yourself, your desires, your fears.  All of a sudden you’re doing things you wouldn’t have imagined and enjoying things you thought would be impossible.  The relationship that you have with your body evolves.  Your views on yourself, on your body, change.  Ideally for the better.

The media is so damaging to self image.  You have to be skinny and toned, but not too muscular or you’ll look like a man.  You have to have big boobs, but they always have to be perky and resistant to gravity.  You have to have a voluptuous butt, but there shouldn’t be any dimples or cellulite.  You have to wear makeup, but it has to be perfect and not overdone or you’ll look like a prostitute.  You can’t be a prostitute because it’s morally reprehensible for women to take possession of their bodies that way.   Dark skin is too dark; light skin is too light.  You have to drop the baby weight immediately.  You can’t have freckles.  You can’t have body hair.  You can’t sweat.  You can’t have a zit.  You can’t have wrinkles.  You can’t have grey around the temples.  You can’t have scars.

Mainstream media has told me vaginas smell like fish and aren’t any more appealing to look at.  Blow jobs are mandatory for women to give, but sometimes going down on a girl is grounds for losing one’s “man card.”  Cunnilingus should be avoided.  Why would anyone want to learn how to please someone who smells and taste like day old fish?  I’ve been taught that my body isn’t okay.  More specifically that my pussy is gross.  Kink has taught me otherwise.  Actually, kink has only made what I have always felt okay for me to actually feel.

I actually like my pussy.  I like the way it looks.  More importantly, I like the way it smells.  I mean, I really really like the way it smells.  I’ve always liked the way it smells.  What I’ve come to realize is that it’s okay for someone else to like my pussy and to like the way it smells. It’s okay that someone wants to really spend time there.  Any acceptance of my pussy always felt like placation.  It somehow seemed abnormal that I would actually like my own pussy and if I’m not allowed to like my own pussy how can anyone else?  No one could possibly like that part of my body.  That would be too much to ask of another person.  How could I even expect that from someone, especially if I wasn’t immediately fresh from the shower?  It doesn’t even serve anyone but me which makes it even more unappealing to someone else.  Since fully embracing BDSM into my life, I’ve become more intimate with my body in ways that I would never have imagined, but I’ve let other people get more personal with my body in ways that I would have never guessed, too.  It’s acceptable for my partner to enjoy my body as much as I do.  BDSM is all about letting down guards and pushing boundaries, getting past your comfort zone and feelings things outside the norm.  Of course, the norm SHOULD be sex and body positivity.  But it’s not.

Still within the realm of good hygiene, someone recently made a comment to me that a pussy immediately out of the shower, at best, tastes like nothing and, at worst, tastes like soap or perfume.  They said that the real appeal of a pussy was the smell of arousal.  Pheromones are powerful and it’s okay for someone to be turned on by mine.  And despite what I’ve been told my whole life, arousal doesn’t smell like fish.  Arousal is intoxicating for me, as it should be, and can be so for my partner also.  I can’t even fathom where the whole “fish” thing came from in the first place.  Ridiculous.

In any case, I always felt like I was being told that I shouldn’t like the way my pussy smells.  But I do.  I secretly love the way it smells and I love it more the older I get.  I’m gaining a deeper appreciation for the body, in general, but I’m in an environment where it’s actually okay to like the body.  Outside BDSM, body shaming is the norm.  Within the world of BDSM, it’s less acceptable.  The world, vanilla and kink alike, have a long way to go before everyone can be comfortable in their own skin, but the BDSM realm is making grounds.

And my pussy is thankful for that.

The “Velcro Collar”

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There are two ways that collars are viewed in the community: fashionably and symbolically (not always mutually exclusive). Oftentimes, people confuse the two. What results is a “Velcro collar” that literally and figuratively comes on and off easily and at whim.

Collars are a staple in the BDSM community. It is the submissive “badge” that is worn proudly. There are times when it may be the only thing that a submissive wears, at all. Wearing a collar is kinky as hell and there are as many types of collars as there are submissives who wear them. Leather, metal, rope, whatever’s kinkiest to the players. It can be a real thrill getting led around in private or even at a kinky event with your collar and leash. And what D-type wouldn’t want to be on the leading end of that leash? In their most elementary form, collars look good and are super sexy. They are versatile in their kink and fun factor and immediately give a Dominant or submissive tangible roles in their play.

However, as fun and kinky as collars are to give and to wear, they also hold a much more meaningful and significant purpose to the community. To many, they are as important, if not more important, than a wedding ring. They hold that much meaning. Indeed, a collared relationship is likened much to a marriage. To collar someone or to be collared to someone is a sign of deep commitment and love. It signifies a pledge of longevity and devotion. Among countless other attributes, a Dominant is assuring guidance and protection. A submissive is vowing loyalty and servitude. Together they promise themselves to each other. Only with much thought and consideration should a true collaring take place. It is with one mind that the Dominant and submissive come to the place of a collaring. A partnership. It’s the road that many D/s relationships hope to travel. It is more valuable than any fashion token. (At this point, a token may not even be needed at all.)

Unfortunately, in the haste to enjoy the kinky, fun, more fashionable side of collars, people collar others or accept collars that don’t carry much weight or have much significance. They don’t value it for its true purpose. They bounce from partner to partner essentially “trying on” collars. The collars go on and come off as though held on with Velcro. One week a sub is collared to one Dom, the next to someone different. A Dom has given a collar to a sub and in a blink of an eye taken it away again. A veritable collar yo-yo as it were.

This misuse of collars is becoming even more noticeable as the online community gains momentum. People can now list their relationship statuses. It’s made the collar a very popular status symbol. Once you slap a collar to it, everyone knows that you’re fucking or playing or even sometimes doing something as seemingly innocuous as just talking. It’s kinda cool that way. Now everyone knows that you’re connected to this person. If you’re in an online relationship, it gives your relationship more cred. BECAUSE people put real value to a collar, it does make a relationship seem more important and more “real” if it’s collared.

Sometimes, though, a relationship doesn’t need to be anything more than fucking or playing. Or talking online. Just as in the vanilla world where it’s frowned upon to bounce from marriage to marriage to marriage without any real thought or commitment, it’s not thought highly to dabble much in the BDSM world of Velcro collars, either. It’s awesome to use collars in a scene or for play, but delineating it as an indicator for the deeper, more significant level of commitment devalues its true worth. That’s how we end up with Velcro collars out there.

That’s not to say that a D/s relationship is infallible and that a collar is never taken or given back, but it does mean that a collar is more than just a fashion statement in the BDSM world. It means that there is a partnership full of dedication and allegiance. It means there’s deeper significance than a status symbol. And it also means that deliberation and contemplation have been given to arrive at the place of a collaring. What the relationship looks like in the particular D/s relationship is as varied as collars, but the universal value is essentially the same.

Of course, a collar is only as significant as the people who use them. And sometimes a person needs to go through a few Velcro collars to really find its true worth. Maybe they never find a deeper value for a collar and use it as a more disposable commodity. Not everyone puts the same weight on relationships. Or collars. Conversely, relationships can be just as valuable without the need for a collar, at all. Not everyone feels validated by a collar (nor should a collar be the sole validation in a relationship). People can experience full and rich D/s without any use of a collar, fashionably or symbolically.

Regardless of how much power individuals put on collars in their personal dynamics, collars are going to continue to be an important part of BDSM. And it’s good. We need to have something distinct to kink that makes it different from the vanilla world. Some people are going to use Velcro collars and some people are going to use a collaring ceremony as marriage vows. It all depends on the agreed upon dynamic with the Dom and sub. Whatever that dynamic, communication is key. One party has to be privy to the other. Negotiation and communication is always mandatory, as well as an honest look at one’s self and partner. It would be a horrible and jolting reality if one or the other was using a collar in the Velcro sense and the other was looking at it as an indication of commitment.

Collars are kinky. Use them wisely.

Our New Studio for TSRnetwork.com

Our New Studio for TSRnetwork.com Live We can’t wait to  start the live shows again in the next few months as we rebuild. We are so happy to have found this place to run the live shows and bring back shows Live on TSRnetwork.com.  We will be posting photos as we make changes and create an awesome space for live Free BDSM TV

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Hollywood Spanking Munch and Party Group

artworkforfundraiserhollywood copyThis was an amazing post by Obatala who owns the Hollywood Spanking Munch and Party Group on Fetlife.com and we wish to say Thank You for all your support.

Rebuilding TSR Network Fundraiser

by Obatala

There has a been a lot of talk about fundraising to help get the TSR Network back and on-air in a new studio. Although we can’t actually hold a fund raiser via the Parties one thing that we can do is contribute.

What I am proposing in both of our Groups is a Donation Rally. The Link to theRebuild the Studio of TSR Network will be going on until September 25th.

There are various levels you can donate at, starting at $1.00.

I would say a goal of $1,000.00 from the Group would be a cool way to help. You can send me a message with your donation privately to assure your privacy and so as not to make those unable to donate feel less than supportive. After all we are living in a time where not everyone has even an extra dollar to share.

There will also be several Fundraisers around town that you can jump into the mix and help out. So remember it doesn’t take a lot, but if everyone gives a little that little becomes a lot!

Hollywood Spanking Munch and Party Group Link

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I have permission to share this you from the author and owner of Hollywood Spanking Munch and Party Group.

Bordello of Decadence Fundraiser for TSRnetwork Sept 14, 2013

 

artworkforfundraiser BOD copyYou’re invited to Bordello of Decadence  for a Fundraiser to Rebuild TSRnetwork and bring back Live Free TV Broadcasting shows about BDSM. If you can’t make it the event please donate here . We are very excited about this event at Sanctuary and wish to thank Ivan for putting on this event to help rebuild TSRnetwork Studio.  The event will be on September 14  at Bordello of Decadence in  Rosemead,  CA. We will have a auction and SirGio_MasterDJ will be the DJ for the evening.

 

Will be adding more to this post as we start to get more auction donations. The first donation for the auction is from CharmingTuTus as they have donated their one of their amazing Tu Tu for this event. Plus, Sex and Metal will be making a toy donation to the auction.

 

Join us for some song, music, auction and a few spankings and lots of flogging on September 14 th at Bordello of Decadence,  for this event to raise funds for rebuilding  TSRnetwork Studio and bring back Live Free TV broadcasting as we are the only network that broadcast live educational about BDSM. We are changing the world one vanilla at a time.  Donate now and make a difference.  http://igg.me/at/tsrnetwork