Thank you for the private donations

I was amazed at how many people privately donated to rebuilding TSRnetwork Studio. I was given cash and checks from a few members of our community the last few days.

TSRnetwork.com Honor BDSMThese are people that wish to see TSRnetwork get off the ground so we can once again have Live Free Broadcasting of quality TV shows about BDSM.

I was told that they believe in what we are doing in portraying BDSM in a positive light world wide. Your private donations are greatly appreciated and was quite a surprise. Because of your donation you have kick started the rebuilding.

Now that we have a place to set up the studio and your donations will go a long way to help rebuild TSRnetwork and bring back the shows live.

TSRnetwork Studio is a community studio and your help to support this vision and bring back live shows was an amazing gift.

Our campaign to rebuild link: http://igg.me/at/tsrnetwork/x/3993862

Thank you,
Rev Mel and all the shows host.

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How I spent my BDSM Pride Day 2013

BDSM Pride Day what did I do on this day of celebrations? I could have went to a dungeon and did something kinky but I decided to stay quiet and thank about what BDSM Pride Day means to me.

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Freedom to be who I am

Realizing that it’s OK being different then my vanilla friends and family.

Enjoying being open about my life in BDSM.

Having friends to share our life choice with.

Being a part of a community that is bigger then just me.

Knowing that anyone of us can make a difference.

Learning that being transparent is not just a word but really acting opon the word and truly be transparent .

My word is my bond and truth and honesty is not only the foundation of BDSM but also my foundation.

The first thing is to keep myself safe and take time to rest and understand that it’s Ok just to be still.

 BDSM Pride Day is all of those things and more as I don’t need a big party to celebrate, that just sitting at the ocean at sunset and being at peace with one’s self. It is a celebration of life from the kinky side of fence. It is joy, love and peace knowing that I don’t have to do anything as BDSM Pride Day is in my heart and soul.

 

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Rebuilding TSRnetwork with an Indiegogo Campaign

We just launched an Indiegogo Campaign to get TSRnetwork Live Shows back up and running.

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Here is the link to the campaign http://igg.me/at/tsrnetwork/x/3993862

Let’s make a difference in our community and get Free Kink TV back on the air-waves.

TSRnetwork.com is a free, live broadcasting network that centers on education and safety. We are the Real 50 Shades of Gray. We believe in Safe, Sane, and Consensual Play and Relationships. We are not your grandmother’s TV show; we are so much more.

TSR Network creates live, free, educational TV talk shows for the net. We have broadcast over 3,000 live show s and have saved many lives through our open dialogues. Since its launch in 2009, more than 3 million unique viewers have tuned in. We have been able to answer many questions about this life choice and have educated many on how to play safely.

We lost our studio in Hollywood, CA. in mid-2012 when our building was sold. We put the studio into storage within 15 days of being told that we had to vacate. It took 6 months of construction to build our second floor video village, and we lost it all in 15 days.

Our goal is to rebuild and return to the airwaves as soon as possible. We built a studio with guts and love and the desire to help our community and educate new people coming into the life choice. We are looking forward to building a new studio so that we can bring back our wonderful hosts and get back to broadcasting live, free, and educational shows. Our mission continues to be to delve into the positive aspects of the BDSM life style and to equip our audience and their friends with the tools to understand this path. Honesty, integrity, relationships, negotiation, and trusting your instincts are some of the topics we focus on to equip our audience with the ability to maintain their personal security, while taking fun to a whole new dimension.

We have thousands of tapes of interviews of some of the top national people that help to make our community a safer place. Education and safety is why we do these shows, mixed with lots of humor and as Venus De Mila says, “Lots of Love.” One of our goals is to make prior interviews available, while also creating new content and having new discussions. Yes, we may talk about sex and lifestyles, but we also educate. Our shows are done with taste and are loaded with lots of information to keep you safe.

We also produce BDSM Pride Day “BDSM PRIDE DAY is OUR day: a day of unity- a day for BDSM-coming-out – a day of protest against discrimination – a day of celebrations and parties – SM Pride!”

Click on link to watch sample video of our 7 hour Pride Day 2010 broadcast:

BDSM Pride Day and the TSRpeople’s Choice Award First Year

 

What we are not: We are not a porn site or a sex site. Our content is for consenting adults who are interested in power exchange relationships with other consenting adults.

Founder of TSRnetwork.comRev Mel is a Female Dom with over 20 years in the lifestyle and is an ordained minister and a BDSM Consultant, educator and freedom rider.

As host of The Rev Mel Show on TSRnetwork.com, she has interviewed Jay Wiseman, Venus De Mila, Guy Baldwin, Midori, Jack Rinella, Nina Hartley, and experimental show maker music legend Kim Fowley, as well as so many other outstanding leaders in our BDSM Community.

Quote from Rev Mel: “There is not a street in the United States that someone is not being tied to a bed, blindfolded, and spanked. We are not different. We are lawyers, doctors, teachers, and we cross the spectrum of average people looking for a little spark in their lives.”

When we lost our Hollywood studio, we had just started bringing in enough funds to pay the bills, in order to be self-sufficient. We are, and always will be, a free TV network for our viewers via commercial sponsorship’s.

 

The Impact on the World

BDSM has been given a bad rap, because many more people are coming into the life choice and not knowing that they can really hurt someone. Here on TSRnetwork.com, we do talk about safety and give demos on how to not harm anyone. 5O Shades of Grey may have opened up our community to new people, but there is so much learn. We bring you to the table to think before you jump into something that is unknown to you and your partner.

On our shows, our subject matter has included how to clean your toys, how to keep from getting hurt in play, and how to date in the BDSM world. Our interviews have talked about human trafficking; one young lady shared how she survived her ordeal of being kidnapped and held captive for three months. Her important message is to not trust someone just because they say they are a Dom or a Mistress. We have saved lives with our open discussions about this life choice and opened up a continual dialogue on to keep our community safe.

Through our interviews, we bring educators to your living room and give you the ability to call in your questions or post them in the chat room. Jay Wiseman talked about BDSM and the law. Guy Baldwin talked about the mental health aspects of keeping oneself safe. The list is long on who we have interviewed and the important information they have shared. TSR Network offers the first and only programming dedicated to the BDSM life choice and your safety.

The goal of our outreach program is to help young women and men who have been abused in the name of BDSM and to provide them with a safe place to heal until they can take care of themselves. We look forward to providing a hotline with trained volunteers to better assist our community. We believe in Safe, Sane and Consensual relationships based in trust, not abuse.

Other Ways You Can Help

Help get the word out, and make some noise about our Indiegogo campaign.

Share this link with others on the net, and use the Indiegogo share tools.

Volunteer to help out with the live shows when we are up and running.

Donation of clothes and food for our outreach program.

Link to Campaign

http://igg.me/at/tsrnetwork/x/3993862

 

 

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Safe Knife Play

Dynamics by High Lord Bubba

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Ask Yourself – Am I able to do this without injuring my partner? What do I do if I cut them accidentally? What if I trigger some emotional scene? What if others laugh at he knife I use? Will I fulfill my subs desires? Is my skill level sufficient to do what we have discussed? Will others enjoy watching our scene?

• Knife play has somewhat of a mental taboo because people fear getting cut. However, consensual knife play is probably one of the safest forms of physical play as you get immediate feedback when a problem occurs. Compare that to rope or impact play where the damage is often hidden, and may not surface until hours or days later. Sometimes those other types of play will result in lifelong injuries. As with all play in this lifestyle, it all comes down to successful communication. Truly, successful Communication with your paramount is matched by the need for communication with yourself.

• Always remember that shit happens! There is always the possibility of something going wrong. A sudden cramp, an instant’s distraction, anything unexpected!

• The very best practice dummy is yourself. That way, you receive instant feedback of the highest order on what you are doing at that moment, in as clear a communication as possible!

• Accept the limitation that you are only able to control yourself and your actions. About the only way to prevent a trigger is to ask your partner about the possibility of it then plan your scene around it. However, your partner may not know a certain action will be a trigger or they will feel they are over it, but you just happen to have that one other factor involved that makes it happen. Plan for this and if it never happens great, but if it rears its ugly head, at least you are prepared.

• I mention the use of a credit card edge. If you are able to paint the scene well enough with your words you don’t even need a knife! Use you imagination and have fun with it! The more you practice, the more you will learn to think “Outside the Sheath” which in turn makes you a better knife player.

• For the subject, doing knife play requires that you be upfront and honest about what you want/need. You need to be able to trust them not to harm physically or emotionally and most importantly, you need to understand that you are the one in control of the scene.

• The Doms may ask questions that the subject does not think are relevant, but if you were in their shoes, you would understand. Don’t be embarrassed about answering anything, or about volunteering information that wasn’t asked for. Don’t feel that the other person is going to make fun of you or look down on you because you put limits on the session. If the other partner wants something out of the scene that you don’t or can’t do, then don’t be ashamed to walk away. Mental training for the subject is all about self-confidence

• Be confident in what you want, and be specific in how you express that to your partner. Maybe you want to be scared. Then let them know that you get off on the sensation that a knife can bring. Want some or all of your clothing cut off, then prepare for that with your clothing choice, and let them know. Your partner cannot read your mind, so don’t put them in the position where they have to guess.

• Tell your partner so they will know how you will react to something like grabbing your hair firmly, and holding the knife blade to your throat. If you had a bad experience or got cut accidentally one time. Let the partner know so they can know how you might react.
• If you find yourself that this is just a game and you are looking for an escape at the first possible moment, something has gone wrong and you need to safeword right then and there. If you want it to end and it doesn’t  you have now been assaulted and the authorities should be contacted.
• If your partner says that they “had to do that for your own good”, that is bullshit and you’re getting yourself in danger with that partner physically and emotionally down the road.
• If you think there is something wrong with that last statement, that’s fine, but I’ve yet to meet the person that gets in the car after their partner says they need to have you join them while they crash it.

Safety

• Knives are not toys, remember the purpose of a knife was as a weapon, to hurt or even kill someone
• Always have a good quality first aid kit, with antibiotic ointment, cotton balls, fabric band aids and sterile strips, otherwise known as butterfly bandages
• Negotiate your scene, take your time, and never use a knife on another that you have not used on your own skin
• Always clean knives before and after any play session
• Do not boil knives to sterilize. It may warp the blade or cause it to lose its temper
• Have sub shower before play and then wipe her down with alcohol

. Use either a very sharp knife or a dull edge. Those in the middle are dangerous because they are uncontrollable

• Pull knife toward you, never push it
• If scraping, hold blade at 45 degree angle to the skin
• Do not cut above the shoulders. Too many sensitive and irreplaceable bits
• Hold your blade as an artist holds and controls a paintbrush. Your sub is your precious canvas. Be creative while maintaining your control
• Start off with a knife with a blade no larger than the width of your hand
• Always anticipate a flinch or a sudden noise like a plate breaking that might cause your subject to flinch. Know ho

w your subject flinches, in which direction, how much movement, a jerk or a quiver, etc.

• for the absolute safety of the top, NEVER destroy clothing, unless that has been negotiated. The Dom that destroys her brand new matching bra and panties from Victoria’s Secret is asking to die!
• Remember that Knife play is the ultimate edge play and is legally considered assault with a deadly weapon, because it is!

Techniques

• Spank your sub using a long flat blade
• Style, technique, experience and control all impact upon your skill and presentation
• .Preparing the site for the scene should be considered a part of the scene, and may help your sub get into the scene in her mind
• Run your blade up their body, while whispering of all the things you will do to them if they are not a good little slave and stay perfectly still
• Use a very sharp knife to demonstrate cutting of paper, and then once they are blindfolded switch to a different knife
• Use the edge of a credit card instead of a blade edge. You can bear down on their skin without cutting

 

• Put a blade into icy water or freezer to use while it is cold
• Use a blade or credit card dripping with warm water to make them feel as if you have cut them and they are bleeding, even a drop or two
• Hold up your biggest, baddest knife while speaking commands to them, then switch knives, once they are blindfolded
• Use knife to cut their undergarments off, same with bondage rope
• Use cord to suspend multiple blades from a stick or bamboo to tickle their skin in multiple locations simultaneously
• Remember that the psychological aspect may be more important to your subject than the actual physical aspects. Know your sub and her motivations. It isn’t called a mind fuck for nothing!
• A lot of knife play is about scraping, touching and rubbing instead of or in addition to cutting. It is not necessary to bring blood for the knife play to be very stimulating and fulfilling for both parties
• Pour hot wax on them and use the blade to scrape the cooled wax off them

 

• Role play scenes that might involve knives could be interrogations, kidnapping, rape, sacrifice or punishment
• Have a candle or Sterno flame nearby t heat up a blade, and then use a blade from the freezer instead. You could also use the heated blade to place upon a small piece of meat, the sizzling sound and the smell could create the most awesome mind fuck ever!

Choosing a Knife

• Choose your first knives for functionality, not fashion
• Consider a knife made from rubber or polyester as a training or practice knife
• Use a knife with a blade length of approximately the width of your hand at first
• Weight, size, balance, handle and price are all worthy considerations when selecting any knife. Expect to have knives that are only used for your knife play
• Avoid overly long knives as they are unwieldy and hard to balance after a while they may cause your touch and control to degrade

• Any blade that has a nick is no longer safe for use in knife play
• Do not use any knife with a fully serrated edge, as it will be difficult to control
• Always use knives that only have one sharp edge in the beginning
• Never buy a knife with a plated blade. The plating may flake into a wound and cause infection. Also a chrome plated blade is impossible to get really sharp
• The handle should feel comfortable at all angles in your hand, otherwise it will be limited in its usage
• Knives with an overly heavy handle will be hard to judge how much pressure you are putting on the blade
• Consider how hard it might become to control the knife if sweat or water or blood gets on the handle making it slick. Have a towel handy
• Avoid knives with extra decorative parts that might hand up on things like rings, necklaces or bracelets

• An easy way to purposely dull an edge is to drag the blade across steel wool on top of a cutting board, similar to slicing bread

• It is easier to sharpen a blade than it is to regain the confidence of someone that you accidentally wounded
• Choose stainless steel blades and remember that stainless does not mean rustles. A wipe down with mineral oil will help preserve your blades
• Never play with a rusty knife The likelyhood of infection is quite high
• Keep blades separated from one another. Having a canvas or leather pouch will protect your blades from one another as well as protecting you from the dangers lurking in your toy bag
• Use germicidal soap and/or alcohol to clean and sterilize your tools
• Use the knife on yourself first to learn the feel of the blade. Start off with the dull side and progress to the sharp side as you drag the blade across your thigh. Eventually, you should have welts and ridges across your thigh as a result of your familiarization and practice with that blade

Your First Scene

• Ok, you have carefully Selected your first knife, dulled it sufficiently that you are not going to hurt anyone, and practiced on yourself.
• Now you are going to take knife in hand and stimulate someone very sensually.
• This is not the time to jump ahead in the script and try all those things you have just learned about. Neither is is

it the time to try role playing or D/s or M/s play.
• It is not the time to try mind fucks of any variety. This is just an extension of your practice. Just the basics will do very nicely.
• It may take you as much as a year before you do a scene with your normal partner without extensive negotiation and pre-planning. Explain what is going to happen and help them to relax.
• Have them to lay down in a relaxed and on a clean and sturdy surface. Never do this on a water bed! A standing subject is very different. Muscle tension, skin looseness, etc.
• Take your time, and you relax as well as your subject. Check in with your sub periodically to ensure she is OK with all th

is and is not being quiet because she is terrified…

• Be caring, concerned, and supportive as you develop a subject that has trust and confidence in you.

Resources

Cutlerycorner.net
Mostly hunting and field knives, with occasional exotics. Good prices.
SMKW.com Smokey Mountain Knife Works
All kinds of knives, reasonably priced. A source for rubber or polyester training and
practice knives
Bigbobsknives.com
Some exotics, smaller assortments reasonable prices

The Toybag Guide to Erotic Knifeplay, Miranda Austin

One of the few lifestyle references for learning about Knife Play. Highly recommended!

Several Groups here on Fetlife.com related to knives and knife play.

Running With ScissorsKnife Cravings
Knife Play Central
Blood/Knife Play Pictures
Knife Lovers
On The Knifes Edge
Knife Play
Fear Play
…the list goes on and on….

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Honor,Integrity, Etiquette, Protocol and Respect

 

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I think that we have to have standards in our community and community accountably. It starts with mentor-ship and education. Thousands and thousands new people are coming into our life choice. Honor, Integrity, Etiquette, Protocol and Respect is what we claim to live by and now is a time to put those thoughts to action. We as a community would have nothing if we did not live by these standards.

You have to ask yourself when do we incorporate community accountably in to our world of BDSM. With the thousands and thousands of people that come into our community daily how do we begin to achieve and create a community with high morals and respect and most of all honor. In the BDSM world we are all new born babies and are learning how to walk, but with education and communication we can achieve this and make our community better and safer place.

Can you imagine if we all could band together how we could really change the world for the better? We are part of each other and we all can make this community stronger and more united on many levels. I do believe that we can make a change if we start teaching and practice basic common sense and really look at our actions in this community. Etiquette, Protocol and respect is there for us if we really wish our community to grow. We do have promise, I truly believe that… We can’t do it over night and make BDSM police but we can teach new ones and not so new ones that their word is their bond and to live by Etiquette, Protocol and respect but most of all integrity.

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The Rev Mel Show with Guest High Lord Bubba Safe Knife Play

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Monday, February 04, 2013 · 8:00 PM – 9:30 PM
Location:
On your Computer and TSRnetwork.com
http://tsrnetwork.com and Google Hangout
Cost: Free it’s on your computer
Dress code: Nude or bathrobe or what ever

Come and join us on the Rev Mel show on TSRnetwork.com with guest High Lord Bubba for this informative show about Safe Knife Play from a long time practitioner of this artistic side of sensuality? Prepare to learn from a master of knives that has run with scissors several times, even against his mother’s advice!

If you missed his presentation at the Lair de Sade this weekend then you will enjoy this show all about Safe Knife Play here on TSRnetwork.com at 8 PM PST Live.

Come and join us in the chat room and get your questions ready to be answered by High Lord Bubba.

Knife Play. One of the play categories that you don?t often see done well and safely. It can vary from a sensual touch to a freaky mind game, and every place in between. You too, can learn to play safely with what is truly known as the edgiest of the edge play topics! Done properly, it can create a bond between a Dom and a sub unlike no other? Done poorly, and well, you get the idea.

Knife play is yet another of our kinks that can be done at many levels. The potential risk can be minimized without detracting from the mind game. Knife play can easily be done without bringing blood. The dangers can be minimized, and we will teach you how to do it safely.

Bio:
High Lord Bubba is a recent addition to the Los Angeles lifestyle group. HLB moved here from the Tampa Bay area where he was very active in the BDSM lifestyle. He has made numerous presentations on a variety of subjects such as knife play, fire play, bondage, lifestyle protocol, in his 25 years as a R/L Master and presenter.

He has frequently served as a Dungeon Master in charge for events with as many as 500 attendees. He is also the author of a 120 page lifestyle guidebook for a D/s, M/s support group in the Tampa area, along with his role as a Mentor for Doms and subs, newcomers and old timers alike as well as other DMs.

High Lord Bubba was given this name by an Old Guard mentor some 20 years ago, and has proven himself as a High Lord, who does not take himself, or others, too seriously!

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50 Shades of Taste Cookbook Launched

50 Shades of Taste CookBook50 Shades of Taste is launched Thank you!

We wish to thank all of the members of the BDSM community for donating their recipe for this wonderful book to raise funds for TSRnetwork.com. If you sent us a recipe and its not in this book it will be put in the next edition. Plus if you miss the dead line for this book we will be putting out an notice with a link for the next book.

We wish to thank,
Rayna, Domina DeManda, Jay Smith,Sublime Cuisine, Sarah Flemming,
DrangonLady, Chaprizchka, Lew Rubens, Master Magnum, Lord Foul, Miss Alix
Amy A, Ken Marcus for your rescipes. Thank you taking the time to send us your recipes for such a good cause.

Link to buy the cookbook 50 Shades of Taste. It can be downloaded as an ebook or on your Ipad from Cookbook Cafe.

http://bit.ly/50shadeoftaste

50 shades of Taste is a community cookbook to raise funds for TSRnetwork.com to help keep live TV broadcasting free for people who are into the BDSM life choice. TSRnetwork is an educational live free TV platform for the BDSM and Kink community that believes in education to keep it safe. It is the Real 50 Shades of Grey community that believes in education to keep life style players safe from harm.

Each recipe has been donated by members of the BDSM and Kink community. The people who submitted recipes are home cooks, chefs, foodies that love to cook and some are Dom’s, submissives, Masters, Mistress’s and fellow kinkters that donated there recipes to this cook book called 50 Shades of Taste to keep TSRnetwork going.

TSRnetwork.com is a not for profit BDSM / Kink TV network and we believe in education and getting out positive information and image about BDSM to members of the community and out in the vanilla world. Broadcasting for over 8 years and telling the real 50 Shades of Grey stories that are real and moving to many that have to hide that they are part of the BDSM community.

On TSRnetwork our guests have made us laugh, cry and touch hearts with their honest stories. We have learned that education must come first and for most on this journey of BDSM. We have had hard times and good times but we stayed on coarse of bring live free BDSM broadcasting to those that wish to be a part of something bigger then oneself.

We have learned what community felt like and found joy in the simple things like asking a question in the chat room while watching an interesting guest share their story. We have reached across the country and have learned how BDSM is in Oregon, Hawaii and other wonderful places, where we all have one thing in common and that is BDSM and kink.

This cookbook is about sharing and reaching out and bring a positive light to the world of BDSM as we are the Real 50 Shades of Grey and we are changing the world one Vanilla at a time.

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Kim Fowley The Lord of Garbage on The Rev Mel Show

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Live on the Rev Mel Show January 28, 2013 at 8 PM PST on TSRnetwork.com and TSRnetwork Youtube channel, icon legend Kim Fowley – the Experimental show maker – will be a guest on The Rev Mel Show to promote his new book Kim Fowley Lord of Garbage.

Kim has worked in the music industry since 1959 – when he was hired to work with Alan Freed the King of Rock & Roll Radio. He has worked with such music artist such a Leon Russell, Kiss, Alice Cooper, The Runaways, Guns and Roses/Poison, VanHalen, Mother of Invention, The Byrds, Cat Stevens, Cheap Trick, Joan Jett and Iggy Pop just to name a few.

Kim is a legend in the music industry and is a Songwriter Magazine Hall of Fame 2000. Kim has either produce, co-produced, Talent Spotter, Publisher, Written and has performed on stage and has made music and films with Snow Mercy and has been a trend setter for many years.

His web site is http://kimfowley.com. So come in the chat room (on the right) on January 28th!

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Honor,Integrity, Etiquette, Protocol and Respect

I think that we have to have standards in our community and community accountably. It starts with mentor-ship and education. Thousands and thousands new people are coming into our life choice. Honor, Integrity, Etiquette, Protocol and Respect is what we claim to live by and now is a time to put those thoughts to action. We as a community would have nothing if we did not live by these standards.

You have to ask yourself when do we incorporate community accountably in to our world of BDSM. With the thousands and thousands of people that come into our community daily how do we begin to achieve and create a community with high morals and respect and most of all honor. In the BDSM world we are all new born babies and are learning how to walk, but with education and communication we can achieve this and make our community better and safer place.

Can you imagine if we all could band together how we could really change the world for the better? We are part of each other and we all can make this community stronger and more united on many levels. I do believe that we can make a change if we start teaching and practice basic common sense and really look at our actions in this community. Etiquette, Protocol and respect is there for us if we really wish our community to grow. We do have promise, I truly believe that… We can’t do it over night and make BDSM police but we can teach new ones and not so new ones that their word is their bond and to live by Etiquette, Protocol and respect but most of all integrity.

Rev Mel

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