The Surfer Theory:
Men who surf are not only kinky but need a female led relationship.
Now I have spoken to several “surfers” who have confirmed my theory and I have seen it manifest without concern for age, ethnic background, or economic level. I have also seen it take on different flavors from a vanilla boy unhappy with past relationships because the women all wanted him to be the strong one; to very kinky little boys who need a Mommy to love and discipline them.
Things surfers seem to have these things in common on some level:
The ocean is one of their favorite places to be
Being out on the water makes them feel alive
Even after having a painful/disastrous wipe-out, they can’t wait to go back
Being in the water, feeling the power of the waves, is an obsession
The ocean is capricious and unpredictable
Mother Nature is all powerful and controlling
Submitting to the waves is the way to overcome
And I have discovered a great deal of similarities in my many conversations with about 10-15 surfers I have met online (and in person) that connect to their needs in relationships:
Seeking “Mother Nature” type relationship
Want someone else to make the decisions
Need for female led relationship
Need for discipline
Need for love and affection
Need for the other person to have some level of control in their lives
Inference is the act or process of deriving logical conclusions from premises known or assumed to be true.
From these similarities in how they view the ocean, and how they view relationships I have made the following observation. Surfers are kinky on some level and the majority I have met have a desire to have a specific type of D/s relationship: Mommy/boy.
I understand and concede that this type of dynamic may be the extreme, but it is also the most commonly seen.
There seems to be some kind of correlation between how they view the ocean, surfing, Mother Nature; and the type of relationship they seek: One that includes a dominant female, discipline (including pain and control) and soothing, affectionate aftercare. In many cases there is also a sense of “worship” and a feeling that “Only Mommy really understands what I need most.”
There also seems to be a connection between the “taboo” quality of this type of D/s dynamic and the “anti-establishment” attitudes found in the surfer culture.
Finally, I am curious to connect with and “survey” by conversation, any surfers who feel they may connect to this theory on any level. Feel free to contact me with “Surfer Theory” in your subject line, or first sentence.