The Surfer Theory

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The Surfer Theory:

Men who surf are not only kinky but need a female led relationship.

Intro:

Now I have spoken to several “surfers” who have confirmed my theory and I have seen it manifest without concern for age, ethnic background, or economic level.  I have also seen it take on different flavors from a vanilla boy unhappy with past relationships because the women all wanted him to be the strong one; to very kinky little boys who need a Mommy to love and discipline them.

Observation:

Things surfers seem to have these things in common on some level:

The ocean is one of their favorite places to be

Being out on the water makes them feel alive

Even after having a painful/disastrous wipe-out, they can’t wait to go back

Being in the water, feeling the power of the waves, is an obsession

The ocean is capricious and unpredictable

Mother Nature is all powerful and controlling

Submitting to the waves is the way to overcome

Survey:

And I have discovered a great deal of similarities in my many conversations with about 10-15 surfers I have met online (and in person) that connect to their needs in relationships:

Seeking “Mother Nature” type relationship

Want someone else to make the decisions

Need for female led relationship

Need for discipline

Need for love and affection

Need for the other person to have some level of control in their lives

Note:

Inference is the act or process of deriving logical conclusions from premises known or assumed to be true.

Inference:

From these similarities in how they view the ocean, and how they view relationships I have made the following observation.  Surfers are kinky on some level and the majority I have met have a desire to have a specific type of D/s relationship:  Mommy/boy.

I understand and concede that this type of dynamic may be the extreme, but it is also the most commonly seen.

Conclusion:

There seems to be some kind of correlation between how they view the ocean, surfing, Mother Nature; and the type of relationship they seek:  One that includes a dominant female, discipline (including pain and control) and soothing, affectionate aftercare.  In many cases there is also a sense of “worship” and a feeling that “Only Mommy really understands what I need most.”

There also seems to be a connection between the “taboo” quality of this type of D/s dynamic and the “anti-establishment” attitudes found in the surfer culture.

Finally, I am curious to connect with and “survey” by conversation, any surfers who feel they may connect to this theory on any level.  Feel free to contact me with “Surfer Theory” in your subject line, or first sentence.

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Generations from now

thizbeeBack CameraGenerations from now,

How will the hipsters,

Who haven’t been born yet;

See us?

 

What will they think of their past?

What will they think is cool?

How important will these things be?

 

Fashion, Art, Music,

Love, Lust, Morality?

 

Money, Infamy, Celebrity,

Motivation, Influence, Notoriety?

 

Drama economics, Wrong wing Bullies,

Dog eat Dog, God eat God,

Two class society (sounds like slavery)

Power hungry political progeny

 

And this makes me think about the victims of Social tormentors

 

The rich kid, bully,

Perfect at everything,

Ex-jock, ex-prom-queen,

Ex-movie star, political superstar.

 

Climbing the corporate ladder to success on the backs of your victims:

Just like when we were in 2nd grade

And you pushed me down

And all our friends laughed.

 

You already have everything.

I’m nothing

I got nothing

Why do you keep hurting me?

 

So you established your dominance

And have been vying for

Your way to the top

Ever since.

 

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