Naughty or Nice with Miss Cassie Guest Bettie Bondage Tuesday 9 PM PST on TSRnetwork

Naughty or Nice with Miss Cassie Guest Bettie Bondage Tuesday 9 PM PST on TSRnetwork

Naughty or Nice with Miss Cassie Live on TSRnetwork.com
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Naughty or Nice with Miss Cassie
Airs live every Tuesday 9-10pm PST on TSR Network

This week her special guest will be Bettie Bondage.

Professional/Lifestyle Domme, BDSM performer and so much more.

Tune in to find out if Bettie is naughty or nice…

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The Words Lifestyle and Community

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Ideologies separate us. Dreams and anguish bring us together. -Eugene Ionesco~

What comes to my mind is we as humans is we need a way to communicate so we use words and put labels on thing so we can understand each other. Some people think that putting labels on things is a bad thing, I think if we did not have some sort of labels in place that we would live in a world that would be just black and white.
We all have made a choice to come in to the BDSM community with all its bad and good. It seems like forever that we are all still here talking about the word Lifestyle. I like to call it my life choice as I chosen this way of life.

Lifestyle community are words and mean so much more than just words. We are vast, with millions of like-minded people with one goal and that is BDSM or something that has to do with it. I don’t have a problem calling it a Lifestyle. As lifestyle is just a word to express myself and what type of group I play in.
What community means to me a way of being a part of something bigger than just one or two like-minded friends. Some will say that we have no community but I beg to differ. In my mind body and soul I’m part of this community of very creative and loving kinky people that love BDSM and the freedom to be who we are.
We can twist around words but really we have the freedom to believe in community or not to. I believe in community and think that everyone one of us can make a difference.
I find peace that there are millions of people just like us when it concerns our Life choice or if you call it lifestyle, there is no right or wrong here. Every single one of us can make a difference to create a better place for all of us.

These are just words but its what’s is in your heart and mind that defines us and we just use these terms to communicate.
I’m proud to say I’m part of the BDSM Lifestyle Community and I will never tell anyone that they are wrong when they say it’s not a community as everyone has the right to believe in what they believe in.

I have learned more about myself in this community than I would have thought when I first discovered BDSM. The road was not away easy but it worth it as I have seen so much over the last 20 years and I’m still here, that has to say something about what we call lifestyle community?

It is who I am and I feel my first years was about learning my craft and going to parties and having fun but then it became a place where I could be of service. I have taken the ego out of BDSM for myself and replace with calm peaceful bliss. Being of service to our community has given me a sense of peace. I don’t play much anymore but I love to go the Lair de Sade and just sit in the main room and listen to the sounds. I find so much peace in those sounds and to me that is heaven and community and I feel it in my heart and soul.

Walk in peace love and joy.
Rev Mel
Founder of TSRnetwork.com

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Thizbee’s DomCon LA 2014 Photo Journal

Thizbee’s DomCon LA 2014 Photo Journal

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Wow!
What a great weekend! I’m sure if you take a look online you will find all kinds of photos of Pro Dominas and the Mistress Tea. But but here are pix I took of things I did this weekend: Hanging out with Poly family and loved ones, and meeting wonderful new friends as well!

Please feel free to email me with comments, suggestions, your photos, or any names I missed at:
Thizbee.Sez@gmail.com

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Thizbee Sez, Vinzent, and Rev Mel
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23This is my 8th DomCon and my 3rd year teaching my Poly and Kink class: Alphabet Soup. DomCon also happens to be Vinzent’s and my anniversary. For some of my loves I count the anniversary as the first time we finally met after months of chatting online. Some I count the first date. Some I count as the first time we did it. But since Vinzent likes to tell folks we had sex before we ever dated (it was a four way tripple penetration scene with Vinzent in my mouth).
We count the first time we said “I love you.”
But Feisty Geisty is the sub
that does all the real fun subby stuff now.
Proud to have her as my metamour!

 

 

The plan was to depart San Diego at noon on Weds via Amtrak. But the fires trapped me at the Santa Fe Depot until after 4pm.
So Vinzent drove down to get me.5
I finally arrived in LA at 2:45am that next morning4

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                                                                                                                                                                      Over packing, again                             Santa Fe Depot, Downtown San Diego

 Friday Night at the DomCon Play Party at Sanctuary Studios LAX. Rope work by Thizbee Sez.

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  This voluptuous lady made my rope all wet. Now I have something extra to add to my laundry. But with those curves that wreck my nerves…. I don’t mind!

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These were my favorite classes from Saturday and Sunday afternoon:
• “Shit my Domme Says” By Danorama
• “Middling” – Three Way Play: Proxy Topping” By Danorama
• “Beyond Monogamy” By Mistress Lady Anastasia
• “Alphabet Soup” By Thizbee Sez
• “Daddy Dom / little girl Primer” By Daddy Vinnie and Lolita

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My new Kinky Celebrity Crushes: Danorama and his girl Mia

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My San Diego kinky buddies: Daddy Vinnie and Lolita

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Here are just a few folks from my Alphabet Soup class. Even though technical difficulties kept me from using the PowerPoint presentation, we still had a great time. Thanks to all my class attendees!
You guys are fucking awesome!
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And of course what DomCon is complete without the SHOPPING!!!!
These are some examples:

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Leyland Toys are all Vegan. Just some amazing work.         For all my duck loving friends!
I got a short crop 2 years ago for my birthday
and its still going strong.

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Can’t grow your own `hawk? Try Firebird Leather feather `hawks!

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Pink Ballerina and Black Latex Boots…                                      DomCon Pony Show display
Doesn’t get any better than that

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Yet one more reason to LOVE DomCon…. Friends!

 

This is what happens when crazy spriral hair accessories and mohawks try to stand next to each other.

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Captain Goddess Domina Mistress Lady Anastasia (….because she just doesn’t have enough titles!)

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A little Blackula snack!                Luzia Lowe… Mohawk friends!

 

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More San Diego Kinky buddies!

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Vic Sharpe is a very sharp dresser!                                                        Ronin & lil Zoey

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My favorite Play Party during the DomCon weekend is on Sunday night at the hotel.  Sometimes break down happens in the back ground, sometimes there isn’t much equipment, but that doesn’t matter because there always good friends and fun to be had by all!

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Including me.  I don’t think of my self as a rope bunny but I do love watching Vinzent create.

 

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Thizbee and Mistress Melissa…                                                   Alice who lives in a palce!

Just two moms hanging out.

 

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Towards the end of the evening Mistress Cyan was passed a paddle with many signatures that would later be auctioned off for charity.  Submissives were asked if they wanted a wack to line up.  I asked if bottoms who just liked pain could take a turn, so I got in line.  Then after the first wack I asked for another, only harder! And she let me have it too…..Wow, that felt good!

 

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Lessons learned at this year’s DomCon:

  1. Call the Hotel more than a month before the event if you want a suite
  2. No matter how much you plan ahead, no matter how detailed your itinerary: Fire always wins
  3. Even after 8 years, I still over pack
  4.  “Please” and “Thank you” go along way
  5. Write down the level of your car on the little envelope the hotel gives you for your room key
  6. Japaneese flight attendents in their uniforms are HOT!
  7. 3 days in an airconditioned environment means lots of oatmeal moisturizer
  8. Carl’s Jr breakfast sandwich is not as good the third morning as it was the first
  9. Thizbee’s brain damage and florescent lights are not friends!
  10. The Hilton LAX has wonderful service, beautiful rooms, and lovely atmosphere; but there is nothing like coming home to your own bed!

 

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This last year has been a busy one for me.

This last year has been a busy one for me…. Finding new people in my life, maintaining ongoing relationships, learning more and more strategies on how to successfully navigate my kinky and vanilla lives with brain damage. (I will be writing more about that in the future, consider it a teaser.) I have been to some play parties in both LA and San Diego. I taught an orientation class for groups in the San Diego Community. I took a trip to visit on old flame from 10 years back when I was living in a quad with 5 kids (3 of them mine). He is the only person I still talk to after all the drama of a large poly family coming to a close. And now what I am looking for to is:
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It’s coming!!!!!!
So out there in other alternative communities, events are “buzzed about” and “previewed” and
“reviewed” (think ComicCon and E3 for the nerds in the room)… In that vein, here are my class recommendations. One of these is self promoting. Some are friends who have good stuff to talk about and some are just classes I’m looking forward to and am excited about.
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These are the classes I am attending this year (and mine of course)

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Here are some amazing people in my life who have reached that place in their journey where giving back to the community is part of who they are. Daddy Vinnie and Lolita are friends of mine from the kinky community in San Diego. I met them several years ago and have seen them grow as newish folks to the community on through starting their own munch that has met every month for over a year. I encouraged them to go beyond San Diego and share their style of kink at DomCon and here there are.
Sarge Servatis is another San Diego friend whom I am pleasantly surprised to see at DomCon this year. She is an amazing person. If you are attending Dom Con this year, please drop by their classes.
Vinzent, one of my BF’s and all around terrific human being, is teaching a Rope Class, go check it out.
I will be teaching a continuation class with Satyr this year on Poly and Kink. In the last two years my class was sorta of a Poly 101… and this would be more like 102. We are gonna tackle the hurdles in maintaining healthy poly relationships.
Also, currently not listed yet, but should be coming back again this year is Lady Anastasia’s class on Poly and the brain. If you are nerdy or poly or both, it’s a must. Science!
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And on to the classes I am excited about attending!
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These are subjects where I can always pick up new tricks, or hone my skills. I love to learn to new things!
I have sat in Simon Blaise’s class on Owning Your Kink, I highly recommend it.
I am also looking forward to The Middling class (yet another way to incorporate poly and kink) and the “Shit my Domme Says” because I think there is great power in how Doms/Dommes communicate with their submissives. This may make for future articles… as will all of DomCon.
So in a few weeks I will be letting know you how I survived and what I learned and all the fun things I came across. Until then, PLEASE feel free to send me a comment, suggestion, or questions
Thizbee.Sez@gmail.com

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Liberty Manor

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Liberty Manor is a place that you can live your life with complete freedom. Its over 300 acres situated on our 1400 acre farm. You must be 21 or older to attend, with miles of trails, water features, and all that nature has to offer, you won’t be bored, and best of all our place is closer than you think. 35 min from downtown Houston, 40 from Beaumont, and 35 from BOTH airports!

Our philosophy is simple, we are non-judgmental, pan-sexual and open to everyone regardless of their lifestyle or kink.

Our only hard fast rules are:
1. Remember, this is our back yard so keep it legal, and respectful.
2. Accept everyone just as you wish to be accepted.

Liberty Manor considers itself a “pansexual” facility, as such we respect any (legal) lifestyle. Rest assured you will not be turned away based on sexual preference here.

Liberty Manor is the perfect place to host your next adult alternative lifestyle event.
Situated on 1400 acres in Dayton Texas, Liberty Manors 300+ acres offers the utmost in beauty and privacy.
We are conviently located 40 mins from Houston Hobby AND IAH airports.*

The event facility is located on the north side of the property and has full access to everything except the resident area. Guests are able to enjoy the swimming area, coffee shop and eateries, fishing area (when complete) gun range, etc…
We are able to host events as small as 20 guests or more then 10,000.

Camping areas have restroom facilities with showers. There is access to power to charge cell phones or lap tops and free wifi access.

*Airport pickup by Liberty Manor is recommended as It can be difficult to find and priced the same as a shuttle service.

Please Note: Liberty Manor is an adult facility, all guests must be 21+ up.

To learn more contact us at: Info@LibertyManor.us

Link to Website: http://libertymanor.us/

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BDSM We Are One

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We salute all the members of our BDSM Communities across the world as we are All Changing the World One Vanilla At a Time.  Here at TSRnetwork.com we wish to say THANK YOU, because of all of you who have worked so hard. You have made our community stronger though-out the world. We stand tall and salute you all for all your hard work as you have opened the way to the next generations that will soon be the leaders of our community. It is because of all of you that they will truly have bright future. We are one!

From Dungeon owners to munches and events planners you have worked hard to create a more positive view of BDSM and Kink not only in our life choice but out to the vanilla world. Your creativity and generosity has changed the world on how they view us as we are no longer in the closet in fear someone will find out about our lifestyle . We are a community that is so diverse and yet we all have the same thing in common and that is the Love for BDSM and Kink.

We come in all shapes and sizes all types of gender and ages. Our community has Doctors, Lawyers, Teachers, Moms, Dads and people from all walks of life. We have educator that teach classes about BDSM because they want to make a difference so our younger generation will not experience what we had to endure in the past.

We are not just fifty Shades of grey we are every color in the spectrum of human conditions as we were hidden from view but never stop evolving in our life choice.   As Rev Mel has said over and over again when someone vanilla ask her what BDSM is all about she replays that “There is not a street in United States or round the world that someone is not being tied to a bed, blindfolded and spank, as we are not much different than yourself”.

 

We are one and BDSM and Kink is what we need in our life like butter on toast it makes a difference on how we live. We all work together to make this world wide community a better place for all of us. We matter and are united and strong as we are all talking different roads but it all leads to one path and that is our Love for BDSM. Like this if you support BDSM We Are One.

 

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My First Poly Experience.

ribbenthizbeeMy first “poly” experience happened when I was seven. I was sitting with a group of friends and the question was asked, “Who is your best friend?” After naming a few people, I was told I could only have ONE best friend. I thought that was the dumbest thing I had ever heard, ” Why only one?! Who made up this rule?!” As I have been heard to say, I didn’t suddenly become poly one day, I came out the box this way. I have tried monogamy, was even married; but toward the end of that marriage we each had other lovers and we all knew about each other. I just don’t understand the purpose of monogamy in my world. Not saying no one should be monogamous, I have met many people who are quite successful at it. It’s just not for me. Since 2000 I have actively sought polyamorous relationships, and currently have a network of about 10 people (including lovers of lovers whom I am not involved with, but am supported by, and vice-versa). I am pretty sure a complex org chart might be useful in following it all, LOL! For me there has been a natural progression from Polyamory as a lifestyle choice/orientation to being involved in education and support; as I wish to advocate for other Polyamorous people. I would like my children to grow up in a world where being Poly is just as acceptable as any other group/orientation. When I look at the history of the GBLT community I can identify with those struggles. My girlfriend calls it the “Alphabet Soup.” But I think we need to add more letters:

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Kink
Polyamory
Pansexuality
Intersexed
Alternative Spirituality
And so on….
Or any other disenfranchised group whose rights are not being supported and applauded by our society. But because Polyamory is how I identify, it is the flag I have chosen to carry: as far as I can carry it, for as long as my arms can hold it. Until we look around at our world and see all people being treated with respect and appreciation for their uniqueness-es. My uniqueness. Being Polyamorous.

Polyamory FAQ:

What is Polyamory? Polyamory is lifestyle/orientation in which an individual is capable of loving more than one person at a time and in which all people involved are knowledgeable/ in agreement of such an arrangement. Honesty is a key feature of Polyamory and thus elevates it above cheating and infidelity.

What is Serial Monogamy? Monogamy is a relationship dynamic in which only two people are committed to each other. Serial Monogamy is a series of these relationships, with distinct beginning and end, one after another.

What is a Primary Relationship? One’s main relationship (may be a couple or group).

What is a Secondary Relationship? Relationships not included in main (or primary) relationship. These often take up less time, with less commitment and/or fewer responsibilities than the main relationship(s).

What is an Open-vs-Closed (Poly-Fidelity) Relationship?

Open: Primary couple/group allow members to see others (Secondaries) “on the outside” (this may or may not include guidelines and/or veto power)

Closed: No relationships outside Primary group. Also called Poly-Fidelity
What is Veto Power (Guidelines)?

A partner gets to say, “NO WAY!” if they feel there is something they can’t live with, or makes them uncomfortable.
Other examples might be:
o “Come Home”

o “Use Condoms”

o “I must meet the other person first”

o “No Drugs”

o “No Drama”

What is Bi (Bisexual)? Having sexual desire/attraction for or interest in a romantic relationship with both genders.

What is Bi-Curious? Having an interest in the possibility of being with both genders .

What is Bi-Sensual? Having non-sexual affections for both genders.

What is Pansexual? Pansexuality does not view relationships as having gender choices. Therefore people who identify as transgender, gender-less, intersexed, etc would be included in the pansexual model.

What is an SO? Significant Other (this could be wife/husband, boyfriend/girlfriend, or Primary type of relationship).

What is an OSO? Other Significant Other (this is often of the same hierarchy level of the an SO, for example other members of a quad or triad).

What is an LTR? Long Term Relationship.

What is an LDR? Long Distance Relationship.

What is a Vee Relationship? A relationship dynamic where one person is in a relationship with two others, where those two others are not in a relationship with each other or are not as similarly related to each other (e.g they may be friends, but not lovers).

What is a Triad Relationship? A “couple” of three people with balanced emotional/sexual feelings between them all.

What is a Quad Relationship? A “couple” of four people with balanced emotional/sexual feelings between them all.

What is a MMM Relationship? A triad with three males.

What is a FFF Relationship? A triad with three females.

What is a MFM Relationship? A triad with two males and a female.

What is a FMF Relationship? A triad with two females and a male.

What is a Sister Wife? In a FMF relationship, how the two women may refer to each other. A way to describe such a relationship.

What is a Sister Wife or Metamour? Similar to a Sister Wife, but can be of any gender or number. The other person your love is also dating.

What is a Group (Tribe, Family, Network) Relationship? A relationship dynamic in which any or all of the other relationship dynamics may be present within the group, where there some sort of emotional and/or sexual connection between members. Some of the members may be friends, but share significant others.

Examples of Rules/Guidelines in a Polyamorous relationships (such as what constitutes Veto Power) For example:

“My boyfriend’s other girlfriend’s husband’s date.”
“Don’t ask, don’t tell”
“Don’t tell me the dirt, but I want to know where you are.”
“See whom you want, but I just don’t want to know anything.”
“See whom you want, but don’t rub my nose in it.”
What is Compersion? The opposite of jealousy; the feeling of joy for an SO/OSO having love for others and sharing that joy with them.

What are the different types of poly styles of relationships? “There are as many ways to do Poly as there are people doing it”

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“Typical” Models

Married couple seeking a Third: a FMF. This is the most common Poly dynamic. The wife is often Bi or Bi-curious and the third is female and is often Bi. This relationship is often Closed
Primary/Secondary: Primary Couple with Secondary OSO’s. The couple could be married or LTR. There are often Guidelines for seeing others and may include Veto Power for each other. Or they could be seeing others as individuals
Triad (Triads can also form independently )
Vee (Vees can also form independently)
Traditional Vee
Primary Couple dating others together
“A-typical” Models

Network/Group
Quads (and more): A group of four (or more) where the main focus of the relationship is on the four. Typically two emotionally/sexually “intermingled couples”
Tribe/Family: This can include a variety of relationship models with varying degrees of connectivity
LDR: Distance creates unique challenges for this relationship and any other relationships connected to this couple/group. Time is of the essence
Models so individualized, there is no real label to describe them
Here are ways in which Polyamory can be empowering:

Relieves the pressure of having to be someone’s “everything”
Ensures that all needs are met
Encourages self-examination and discussion to discover what is most fulfilling for people, beyond the assumptions and possible limitations of “normal” relationships
By being honest with others and with oneself, a person who may have had to “choose” between two or more friends, possible lovers, or some other interpersonal relationships, would be able to pursue those relationships and thus gain freedom to be who they truly are
Gives one space to be honest with not only themselves, but with all the people they love
Gives a sense of joy, peace, happiness, good feelings to share love on a level most non-poly people are able to understand
Allows one to experience the unique emotion of Compersion
Don’t have to compromise on getting needs met
Love becomes limitless when the boundaries of monogamy are lifted
Taking on new views of non-traditional relationships to move past societal/governmental/religious/parental/etc controls and restrictions of one’s personal choices in their lives and the lives of those they love
Relief from trying to hide other relationships; Encourages honesty
Accepting human nature as having the capability and even desire to love many, thereby accepting of one’s self
As one accepts themselves and accepts others, by embracing Polyamory and its ideals; other prejudices and conflicts become lessened and control over them becomes attainable
As societal mores slowly shift toward global acceptance, “Creating a Global Village“; the ideals and concepts found in Poly will begin to answer the needs people will recognize as they compare their personal relationships with those on a global scale.
Send your questions and comments to: Thizbee.Sez@gmail.com

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Self Identity

miss caddy compson What’s Positive about Sexual Identity

A lot of girls identify as bisexual, especially in the BDSM world.  In my experience, a bisexual girl is almost the norm instead of the exception in the community.  I suppose we’re more accepting of different sexual preferences and many people are more comfortable disclosing their preferences.  I definitely know a lot more bisexual men, which is almost unheard of in vanilla company.  You’re either gay or straight.  If you occasionally have a sexual or romantic relationship with another man, you’re deemed gay.  Hard and fast.  Even if that’s not really true.  “Pansexual” is nonexistent, as are blurred lines like “heteroflexiable” or “homoflexible.”  “Asexual” is also completely ignored in vanilla contexts.  Identifying as asexual, simply means that you’re just a prude or that you just haven’t found the “right” one.  Nonsense.  All nonsense.  There are more outlets with BDSM, but even here there aren’t enough labels.  Take me for example:

At this point, what is my sexuality?

I suppose that technically I started out as a lesbian.  I was absolutely madly in love and hated spending even a moment away from her.  We were together for two years before one day she brought home a boyfriend.  A boyfriend?  What?  I never said anything to her about it.  I guess I just had an “if you can’t beat ’em, join ’em” attitude, so I landed a boyfriend of my own.  And that was the start of my poly relationships.  Additionally, it was also my introduction to BDSM since my boyfriend was a Dom.  A lot for a girl to take on.  I suppose I qualified as bisexual at that point.  I had fully sexual relationships with both male and female partners.

As I got older, I identified more as pansexual.  All welcoming and all inclusive.  I’ve had all kinds of lovers with all kinds of traits and genders.  Female, male, MtF, FtM (and people who didn’t identify with any of those) and I’ve loved them all equally.  Like many others, I enjoyed people on an individual basis, not based on their genitalia.

Now, however, my sexuality has evolved in a different direction.  I still want boys, I still want Tbois and Tgirls, but I no longer feel the desire to be with a woman.  I suppose on a very primitive and basic level, I mostly want cock now and I find myself attracted to people with penises and distinctly not interested in vagina anymore.  I’m not sure when this development happened, but it’s a pretty strong feeling.  I don’t dislike women and I still find some women very attractive (and I still mildly obsess over a few), but I don’t want to have sex with them anymore.  No penis, no play.  Or something like that.  I wouldn’t fight against an intense connection with a woman if there was one, but I definitely wouldn’t seek it out at this point in my life.  (Although I’m mildly interested in fisting and yet uninterested in trying it with a man, so who knows?)

So what’s my sexuality now?  I’m not a lesbian anymore.  I’m not bisexual anymore.  I’m not even pansexual anymore.  I only like men and either side of the trans coin, but not women, so I’m not all inclusive at this point.  How do you label that?  We like to believe that labels aren’t important, but when there are fill-in-the-blanks on profiles and such, there’s no box for me to check.  When someone asks, I don’t have a name for my “thing.”  It’s like asking a biracial child (i.e. also me) to choose one box on her standardized test.  That’s unfair and narrow minded.  There needs to be more options.  Even BDSM doesn’t cover all the sexual orientations there are.  We just throw a “fluctuating/evolving” blanket over anything we can’t properly identify.  Weak.  I know what my sexuality is right now.  It is not currently in the process of evolving and hasn’t for a long time.  I’m not “confused.”  I just don’t have a label for it.

No one wants to be labeled or have to label themselves, but labels are important.  We don’t have the availability to learn details from every person we come across.  We use labels as tools to help guide our knowledge.  When we learn that a woman is a lesbian, we assume that she finds women sexual attractive.  That’s what we’ve gleamed from that description.  We are able to make snap judgments that would be impossible to do if we systematically interviewed everyone she has dated.  We have the slightest start into who she may be and how she wants to be viewed.  Labels get a bad rap, but they’re not inherently bad.  It’s how we use them that is sometimes negative.  When we apply them to stop gathering more information because we think that’s all we can learn, we’re abusing the usefulness of labels.

Sexual identity is important.  It helps us understand and relate to others and it helps us understand ourselves.  No, we don’t always need to label ourselves (to others or even to ourselves) and we never have to be absolute or definitive with our tastes, but as sexual creatures, part of our evaluation of ourselves and others is through sexuality.  Finding that sexual identity sometimes causes strife and confusion, from its discovery throughout life.  But it can also be a very fun joyride.  I have experienced a great deal of satisfaction and self discovery through every stage of my sexual awakening.  I know that it gives me something added that I can use to relate to other people and have them relate to me, too.  Whether we’re “outlandish” with our sexual appetites and desires or more “conservative,” we’re still sexual beings.  Even if we’re asexual.  (No matter how kinky we are in the bedroom, there is always someone else who thinks they’re “kinkier” and no matter how kinky that person is, there’s probably someone even “kinkier” than that. It’s all relative and it’s all a matter of what works for the particular people involved.)  Sexual identity is profound; we just have to be careful not to use labels negatively or harmfully in regards to others, and just as importantly, in regards to ourselves.

With a great deal of things, a lot of people don’t fit into the boxes we put them in.  Most people in fact.  There are countless ways that people describe themselves.  However, no matter how many labels we have to give people, they will never fully describe everyone.  Not yet, anyway.

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Inside Fetish with Genesis Guest will be Sir Valentino topic Clarity, Service and Education

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Inside Fetish with Genesis Guest will be Sir Valentino topic Clarity, Service and Education

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We are the Real 50 Shades of Grey

Tuesday March 25 at 7:30 PM PST

Sir Valentino’s core household and lifestyle values are Charity, Service and Education. These things are extremely important. But Sir Valentino also has a love for food, so this year he will be incorporating food into every class he teaches; starting with his grilled cheese and spanking class next Wednesday. Also Sir Valentino thinks its entertaining but weird to refer to himself in the third person. Thank you boardwalk empire. Now for some of the stuff Sir Valentino has done in the past few years and through his first title year:

Sir Valentino is your Southern California Leather Master 2013 and your SouthWest Leather Master 2014
~Presenter at Dom Con LA 2010, 2011, 2012 & 2013
~Presenter at BOLD 2014
~Presenter at Olympus Leather 2012
~Performer at Sanctuary LAX Studios (Los Angeles, CA)
~Performed at 2014 AVN Awards
~Presenter at TGIF’s Sunday School (Fresno, CA)
~Presenter at the Annual TGIF Ball (Fresno, CA)
~Educator at Sanctuary LAX Studios (Los Angeles, CA)
~Educator at Dungeon Servitus (San Diego, CA)
~Presenter at Behind Closed Doors 2013 (Tucson, AZ)
~Educator at Desert Dominion (Tuscon, AZ)
~Winner of the 2013 Olympus Leather Community Service Award
~Nominee for TSR Man of the Year 2011
~Taught at local dungeons in various cities including Bakersfield, Victorville, Baltimore, Virgina, Tuscon and Las Vegas, etc.
~Appeared on VH1’s “I’m Married To A…” Episode 104
This last year, Sir Valentino taught 24 classes, traveled more than 10,000 miles through eight states and raised eight and a half tons of food for charity.

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Naughty or Nice with Miss Cassie Guest Bettie Bondage Tuesday 9 PM PST on TSRnetwork

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Naughty or Nice with Miss Cassie Guest Bettie Bondage Tuesday 9 PM PST on TSRnetwork

Naughty or Nice with Miss Cassie Live on TSRnetwork.com
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Naughty or Nice with Miss Cassie
Airs live every Tuesday 9-10pm PST on TSR Network

This week her special guest will be Bettie Bondage.

Professional/Lifestyle Domme, BDSM performer and so much more.

Tune in to find out if Bettie is naughty or nice…

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